There’s a moment in every submissive’s journey when we come face-to-face with the word “no.” Often, we expect our boundaries to be bold, sweeping declarations of hard limits that protect us from truly intense or painful experiences. But what about the small boundaries—the subtle “no” we whisper to ourselves about something others might find trivial […]
Lessons from My First No: Embracing Limits, Big and Small Read More »
I know how you feel right now. You’ve discovered this thing called BDSM in some fashion or another and it pulls you in to get it a try. But as you search through countless websites, Amazon BDSM book lists and the sheer number of opinions on BDSM you realize this barrage of information is going
3 Ways You Can Learn About Your Limits When You Are New to BDSM Read More »
Dear lunaKM, I am a sub that is very new to the BDSM scene. I know a little bit, but I’m quite unfamiliar with a lot. Recently, I met someone online that immediately recognized me as a sub, and I would love to impress him. He asked me what my limits are, and what I’m
What are my limits? Read More »
So, I am very new to this. I met Sir online and he asked me what do I expect from this relationship? My question is how do I figure out exactly what it is that I expect? I know I expect him to teach me everything, to help me learn my limits. Any help with
Figure Out What to Expect From a Relationship Before Entering a Relationship Read More »
When I first discovered my submissive side, Sir gave me a BDSM checklist to fill out. It was a spreadsheet over six pages long with categories such as sex, bondage, S&M, role-playing, and toys. The columns include basic yes/no/maybe options, as well as soft/hard limit and “only with Sir.” The list was so comprehensive and
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist Read More »
Falling in love is easy, so is falling out of love-especially when it is the love of a toy. One of the assignments that I assign to the people I mentor involves this occurrence. When I came into the lifestyle, I had two main loves-rope and floggers. To me, there was nothing better than getting to
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist Read More »
New to BDSM? Discover how a checklist can help you explore kinks, identify limits, and communicate preferences with potential partners. A must-have tool for novice submissives!
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You Read More »
