Hello there! There is no “proper manner” for asking for a collar. It’s not a common expectation in the BDSM community. Some Dominants require that the submissive ask to be collared, others insist that it’s their responsibility to ask if the submissive wants to be collared by them. If you are familiar with John Norman’s […]
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hello again, I’ve been talking with a DOM who is considering me for sub training. and wants me to go to him, what should I be expecting on the first face to face meeting.? wendylee Well, that’s a difficult question with a simple answer. You expect whatever the two of you negotiated would happen. I
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Yes, I had been in this lifestyle with the same Master going on six years now. I had just find out where he works, phone number etc. But I have not met anyone in his family or his friends. I am kept a secret and he is separated from his wife. He said to me
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I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?? We both work full-time but I need routine..any suggestions? He’s asking me to give Him examples and I have nothing.. thank you!! –Lovenvrdies Dear Lovenvrdies, Are you sure you need him to
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Question: My bf is vanilla, but he’s interested in the lifestyle. I have the experience to teach him, but I’m a sub. How do I educate him without affecting the power balance or offending him? First off—congratulations! Not only do you have a partner who is curious and willing to learn, but you also have
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Dear LunaKM I am a novice sub who found her first Master about a 5 weeks ago. We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped. About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful. He asked for my submission about a week into the
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Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. I’m a submissive crossdresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons I dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I have
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I’ve been with my Master for almost a year now 24/7. At first, it was very gentle stuff; spanking, a slap here and there, rough sex, light bondage (Do to I am emotionally/physically weak). But over the last month or so it’s been escalating. He’s “Punishing” me now for even the smallest out of step
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Dear lunaKM, I would like some advice on how to tell my family and my children who are teenagers that I am committing myself to my Dom. I have been a single Mother for many years and live in a very rural area. My Dom and I have been in a long distance relationship for
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HOW do you get a Dominant Master to lean on you!? They think they have to be Strong and Masterly all the time (even when you remind them you are their slave to serve them and hear their worries) so when they need help they won’t go to you, their slave, even though a slave
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Dear lunaKM, I have been in a vanilla relationship for quite some time and lately, we’ve been trying out sub/dom. I’m a sub but not only in the bedroom. I like to be told what to do and punished if I don’t complete them. I’m the kind of person that needs that punishment because I
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Hi I need some help, please. I am in a relationship, have been with him for over 2 years. In the bedroom he has always been dominant, I am submissive by nature, and until recently when we discussed our relationship I thought we were doing things that satisfied both of us. At new years we
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I was curious about BDSM before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into BDSM but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows
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Hi! My partner and I are both fairly inexperienced in D/s, and we haven’t quite got the hang of how to do a scene. As she says; “I can tie you up alright, but then what?” It’s hard for her to know what to do, and it’s hard for me to know exactly what I
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Dear LunaKM I am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and but the phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site, thank u by the way. Here’s my question … He requests a morning text and a
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I’m a female sub, and new to the scene, officially. Unofficially, I have been experimenting with (less than enthusiastic) partners, but now I’m a free agent, and seeking a community! So what’s stopping me you might ask? Well, I have genital herpes, and it deters most people. Do you have any tips for a young
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Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if there is anything that can be done to minimize the appearance of bruises and marks after rough play. I am very Irish and my skin is just this shade of death warmed over/ goth girl dream. This makes every mark stand out like a billboard and I get marked
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I am new to a Dom/Sub relationship, for years I chose the wrong men because I was not sure what I needed. I have desired to be a sub for years and now I am acting on it, I have been given this site from Dom Friend who wants me to do some research before we meet. So
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Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment? I mean, it’s fun during scenes. You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts. During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone. That’s why you’re being
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My question is not so much specifically for a submissive, to be honest, i don’t know where to go about this. But after all i have read from you, Luna, i respect your opinions & views & thought you would be best to ask. I have noticed that in the last few years, so many of
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