How do you maintain a 24/7 D/s relationship and still live in the real world? This is my new challenge as my Master moved in with me late this summer.
Rituals:
My original thought was to maintain rituals. When I came home, I wanted to go up to my Master in the house and kneel. His recognition of this ritual would redefine my work day persona to my home persona. I think I managed to do this once. Since then, when I come home either He is busy, or I am rushing to change or let the dog out. My work day persona does not really end as I get dinner, or work on clearing space for His things.
Names:
My Master has been “Master” 24/7 for a long time. I am called “subbie”. These names are used all the time, except in the company of vanillas.
Collar/ Clothes:
I have worn a public collar of a chain and ‘slave heart’ symbol since shortly after I was collared. My Master would like me to adopt rituals of wearing little or nothing when cooking or watching t.v. This sounds great but does not seem practical to me. I do not like cooking wearing lingerie, as much of it is polyester and flammable. And I do not want to have to keep taking clothes off and on as I let the dog or cats out or in. Yes, I know. It’s not about me, but in the end, if it’s not practical it will go by the wayside.
Service:
I love cooking for my Master. I now have developed some favourites for Him, but I also feel my duty is to cook healthy tasty foods. So, instead of the deep fried foods or meat and potatoes, He used to eat all the time, I serve stir fries heavy on the veggies and light on the meat. I am learning to cook items that He requests, such as liver or perhaps deep fried shrimp on occasion. I stock some breakfast treats for weekends.
This morning I started a new work schedule and left the house at 6:45 am. I left a coffee in a thermos and treats by His bedside for when He wakes up. I have to get in the habit of preparing coffee on a timer the night before, but I usually can fix it when I am up letting the dog out in the morning.
Laundry is easy enough as I had a basket system already developed for myself for clean and dirty clothes.
Organization is something that I am better at than my Master, so once I had access to His computer, I was able to start working on His calendar. I log all events mentioned in emails, or casually mentioned to me in passing. I also log my work schedule in a different colour so He knows where I am and at what time. The calendar is kept open so He has a reason to look at it as soon as the computer comes up. This has actually worked much better than I expected!
Sex:
Well the key to ‘subbiness’ is to be available at all times. But again – is this practical? We try to leave time for each other, but there are days already when one or the other of us is just too tired. I try not to give my Master a ‘no’ but to figure out a time in the not too distant future when I will be much more energetic. If I cannot perform one night, I try to carve out time specifically the next morning or night, no later. I am available, but I am also human.
Rooms:
We have an idea that separate rooms might provide interest and keep things from becoming too routine. I am preparing a separate room for my Master to move into. We will see how this works, but He wants to create a bell system of some sort to call me to Him. This will also make it easier for times when my schedule demands a very early night followed by a very early morning.
Are you in a live in situation with your Dom or Master? How have you adapted to keep going 24/7 in the real world? Please add your comments below.