Full Question: How do you know when you’re ready to start sub-training?
Answer:
It depends on what you consider submissive training.
First, let’s discuss what the word ‘training’ really means in a D/s dynamic setting. When you undergo training, what is really meant is that you are learning the mannerisms, behavior, attitude, and activities that will please that Dominant. You never finish your training. Once you have understood the basics of what they wish for you, you can be sure that there will be advanced techniques and anticipatory service. That’s right, training you do yourself to ensure you can provide for your partner’s needs before they appear to need them! There are so many levels of training, and that’s the beauty of it. You always continue learning. But it’s also just learning to balance what the authority transfer will look like between you and your Dominant.
However, for some, going through training to be a submissive is a kink activity. Most couples don’t organize training sessions to learn how to be submissive. But some people love the idea of “training a submissive” and will put submissives through different “tasks” with a reward or punishment at the end.
How do you know you’re ready to learn your Dominant desires? If you have a Dominant, you are likely already learning what they want and need from you. You will often get direction about things throughout your relationship with them.
Keep a journal or log what you’ve learned about your Dominant’s preferences to make it feel formal. Write down how they take their coffee, favorite foods, what they tend to order at different restaurants, if they fold their underwear, and so on. This way, you can reference this journal for things that don’t come up as often, and you can impress your Dominant by providing accurate service that demonstrates you pay attention to them.
Study your partner and learn how you can be available to them when they need you.