Full Question: How can we make a collar ceremony, like on which condition does that append?
Answer:
Creating a collaring ceremony is a significant milestone in a D/s relationship, marking a deep commitment between partners. The ceremony can occur at any point after the negotiation phase, though some may wait until they intend their commitment to be lifelong, akin to an engagement or marriage.
If you’ve been with your partner for some time and feel that a collar is a declaration of your commitment to each other, then start discussing it. Find out what it means for them and discuss its value for the relationship. There’s no universally accepted condition for when to offer or accept a collar. It’s much like, “when’s the right time to propose marriage,” hopefully, that’s when you know the relationship is solid, you want a long-term commitment, and you’re sure your partner will agree.
Receiving a collar is a special event for many submissives and slaves. The ceremony can vary widely in formality and setting, ranging from an intimate private moment to a virtual exchange for long-distance couples. Sometimes, it can be as simple as a meaningful phone call or an online chat.
While BDSM is often practiced privately, some may wish to celebrate their new commitment more publicly within their BDSM community. This allows them to share their joy with friends and chosen family. Though there is no requirement for a formal ceremony, some prefer to have one, similar to a wedding in the vanilla world.
There is no universally accepted way to conduct a collaring ceremony. It can be as formal or informal as the participants desire, but it should always be treated as a solemn event with deep significance, reflecting the serious nature of the commitment within the BDSM community.
If you’d like to know more about planning your collaring ceremony, listen to our podcast, “Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations.”