I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me.
I lost a friend and my first BDSM mentor May 11th. He died in the hospital after a brief illness. He was 60 years old.
I admit that I hadn’t talked to him recently and since I’d married KnyghtMare the contact with him was far less. I just didn’t need the ear of wisdom anymore. I am sure he understood. But now I’m filled with regret for not talking with him more often and his laugh was so infectious that was the first thing I heard in my head when I heard the news.
But this post isn’t about death. It’s about the loss of knowledge. He was such a smart man and his wisdom about life and BDSM helped me figure out who I wanted to be and finding that one person to share it with. He had such enthusiasm for what he knew and loved sharing it with people.
He was also the first to seem excited for me when I started talking about KnyghtMare (nonstop) even though long distance, across an ocean relationships were not common back then. Especially successful ones. And he had such joy for me when KnyghtMare moved across the ocean to be with me.
He was one of the witnesses for our marriage and told wonderful stories at our reception dinner.
And now his voice is silenced.
Now, this isn’t meant to be a depressing post, although I am grieving right now. I am learning that what he shared with me never dies and I know that as long as I pass it along that his memory can live on.
I’m certain that some of what I know about BDSM I learned from talking to him. He was the first D/s relationship I saw in action and it appealed to me. I think that’s when I learned I wanted a D/s relationship and not just the kink.
Every single person you encounter can teach you something about yourself and kink. Even if the person turns out to be a negative influence in your life, you have a chance to learn from it. I want everyone to take a moment today and think about the things you’ve learned from others that really deserve to be passed on. They don’t have to be grand, life-changing things. Even the smallest things are worth passing on.
Don’t let your knowledge fade with you. Share it. I’ll continue to write and share what I’ve learned and what I understand with you but I want you all to pledge to pass on what you know to someone else.
If you don’t think you have someone else, share your voice here. Leave your wise words in the comments and keep coming back to the site. We all learn from one another’s stories. Your story is important and powerful too.
Don’t let it be silenced.