Full Question: Luna…I am so very confused. I know I am submissive, but lately, I have been questioning if I am a sub or a baby girl. I don’t know exactly how to differentiate between the two, as the lines are kind of blurry for Daddy Doms. Help?
Answer:
Labels are confusing. They often have universal definitions and then personal and conditional ones, too. It comes as no surprise that you are unsure how to differentiate between the two. Here are the two definitions as I’ve come to understand them.
Submissive – A submissive is someone who is obedient and surrenders authority to their partner, either part-time or full-time. A submissive has rules and structure to guide their interactions with their Dominant and others.
Babygirl – Babygirl encompasses sweet and innocent imagery and attitudes that give the adult wearer an overall childlike feel. Often, this can cross over with bratty attitudes and behavior; this means the sweet and submissive nature can morph into teasing, pouting, tantrums, entitlement, and a compulsion to challenge others.
Putting on a label makes us feel more comfortable and in control. If you know ‘what’ you are, you can somehow ‘manage’ you inside your mind. You become the label.
The key is to find where you identify for yourself. If you find traits of many different labels, that’s perfectly fine. In many cases, the character traits of one label are not mutually exclusive to a specific label. What do you do then? Create a blur zone, of course. In this blur zone are all the things that can apply to both labels. This blur zone is so large that there is no wonder why novices have such a hard time learning what they are and where they can place themselves.
The short answer is that you can be a babygirl and submissive. They aren’t mutually exclusive. You are YOU, a unique person with a special way to be submissive. A partner will be your match to that uniqueness. So, once you settle into the character traits you want to have, finding a DaddyDom that fits you will be finding someone who can accept and embrace all that you are.