Last month we were in the kitchen, this month I want to walk you through cleaning and maintaining a tidy bathroom. I feel that cleanliness in the bathroom shows guests how important cleanliness is in your home and your own person. While I currently don’t have much more than a hallway sized bathroom with a shower […]
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This is a guest post by The Beginner. I am very much aware of how mild and tame the following post is. This isn’t an account of extreme BDSM. It isn’t an account of me becoming a slave, or what I would consider myself becoming a full on sub. It is simply a retelling of
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This is a guest post for the BDSM Activity Feature Series. patricialynn offers us a look into rope bondage. Rope bondage is a wonderful thing. Nothing beats the feel of the rope sliding across my skin, teasing, tantalizing, with taunting promise of bondage to come. Under the hands of a skilled rope top, bondage can become more
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This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing Relationship. You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the last 12 months! For
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This is a guest post by Nadia West for the BDSM activities series. I’m fairly new to caning, but I’ve discovered that I like it a lot (even if I can’t take as much as some people can). I was afraid of canes for a long time because I had heard they’re rough pain-wise. While
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This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru . Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list
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This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find
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I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end, there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into
Is BDSM the Nerds and Geeks Club? Read More »
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you
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This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here are some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing,
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When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing,
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I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that the person
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The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of
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This is a guest post by Beth, as she will tell you, she’s a 24/7 slave of 2 years and would like to express what she sees as the differences between sub and slave. If you would like to read Rayne’s opinion, you can do so on this post. First off I would like to introduce myself.
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In previous articles of this series, we’ve talked about honing into your values and making sure your personal needs are met, now is a good time to talk about the past. That’s right, I’m sure you are aware by now if you’ve been following this series that a lot of things can impact your goal
Letting Go: How to Let Go of the Past and Be a Happy Submissive Read More »
Expressing gratitude for your Dominant partner and what they do to enrich your life may seem simple. You can always say thank you. That’s good manners. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more creative ways to show how appreciative you are to your
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This post was written by Rayne. You can follow her twitter for active and interesting conversation. I’m pretty big on book definitions. So for me, the word “submissive” has always been an adjective describing a personality trait. When I got involved in BDSM, it became, for me, a heading, of sorts, describing a group of people. Under
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When aftercare is mentioned, it is rarely associated with the Dominant. We hear all about how to help the submissive come down from the endorphin high, treat the marks and aches and emotionally recover from the scene. Do we think that Dominants feel nothing during play that they don’t need care afterward? Think again. When
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When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names
What You Need To Know About Using Contracts to Negotiate a Relationship Read More »
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t
