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How I Use Simple Rituals to Regain My Submissive Mindset After A Busy Workday

By nan-sl / 4 minutes of reading

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be challenging to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy workday. A submissive can use rituals to help them achieve the right mind-space, leaving the outside world behind and regaining the […]

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When Is It Okay to Top From the Bottom?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It’s considered by many to be a faux pax for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it

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First Playtime Jitters and How to Arrive Prepared

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Every submissive goes though it. You may be going through it now. Those butterflies in your stomach because you’ve just set a date for your first play session. Things are still so new and exciting. You don’t know what to expect or how you will react to things. It’s all so strange and foreign feeling.

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What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

We all have one. FetLife is all the rage, but also we have alt.com, bondage.com, and others where we place ads and identity profiles to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it doesn’t matter. What matters is what we broadcast to everyone across our profiles. You need to keep things secure and consider what’s

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The Gift of Submission, Or Is It?

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

When I first started exploring submission I heard and read numerous times that submission is a gift to the Dominant that accepts it. For a long time, I subscribed to this way of thinking and there is nothing wrong with thinking about your submission this way. I’m not here to tell you that you are

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Are Discipline and Punishment The Same?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

Reading across the blogosphere you will encounter these words almost synonymous to each other: Discipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact, for the longest time, I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these

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My Submissive Code of Ethics

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

I’ve been developing a submissive code of ethics for myself to help give me long term goals and a focus. I feel it will bring about change in me that perhaps I can’t see yet. I thought I would share it here so that you can perhaps get some ideas for developing your own code

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Processing Pain and Being a Masochist

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

Being that I’m a masochist, I love pain. I’ve never really thought about it or analyzed what that means really, but reading other people’s blogs has always helped me see that saying I’m masochist is just another huge personal term in BDSM as a whole. So, to think it though, this is what being a

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Sluts: Debunking Another BDSM Myth

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths. According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her behavior

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Domesticity: The Bathroom

By Luna Carruthers / 2 minutes of reading

Last month we were in the kitchen, this month I want to walk you through cleaning and maintaining a tidy bathroom. I feel that cleanliness in the bathroom shows guests how important cleanliness is in your home and your own person. While I currently don’t have much more than a hallway sized bathroom with a shower

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The Beginner at Play: A Novice’s First Experience in BDSM

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by The Beginner. I am very much aware of how mild and tame the following post is. This isn’t an account of extreme BDSM. It isn’t an account of me becoming a slave, or what I would consider myself becoming a full on sub. It is simply a retelling of

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All Tied Up: Rope Bondage

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This is a guest post for the BDSM Activity Feature Series. patricialynn offers us a look into rope bondage. Rope bondage is a wonderful thing. Nothing beats the feel of the rope sliding across my skin, teasing, tantalizing, with taunting promise of bondage to come. Under the hands of a skilled rope top, bondage can become more

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A Personal Story: Lactation Play and the Adult Nursing Relationship

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing Relationship. You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the last 12 months! For

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With the Stroke of a Cane: Enjoying Caning

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by Nadia West for the BDSM activities series. I’m fairly new to caning, but I’ve discovered that I like it a lot (even if I can’t take as much as some people can). I was afraid of canes for a long time because I had heard they’re rough pain-wise. While

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Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

By guest-author / 6 minutes of reading

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru . Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list

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Exploring Impact Play: A Variety of Pleasures

By guest-author / 4 minutes of reading

This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find

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Is BDSM the Nerds and Geeks Club?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end, there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into

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The Ins and Outs of Fetishes

By Luna Carruthers / 4 minutes of reading

“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you

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SkylerPet’s Helpful Holiday Hints

By guest-author / 3 minutes of reading

This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here are some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing,

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Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

By Luna Carruthers / 3 minutes of reading

When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing,

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