As submissives we tend to need to be reminded what we are doing to improve our lives and to give credit for success and progress no matter how small we may perceive it. This new project will help correct that I hope. The following questions are to be used as prompts for you to think […]
How The Honor Notebook Will Help You Focus on The Good in Your D/s Relationship Read More »
I’m still amazed at how many novices on FetLife and in my inbox ask me how to talk to their Dominant to ask for what they want or need. Others fail at open communication at all or have had issues with their Dominant because they are keeping things from them. I don’t know about you,
How to Talk to Your Dominant About Your Needs and Desires While Submissive Read More »
When someone says they have a mentor and that they are learning so much from them I’m happy for them. That is until they start saying that they are having sex with their mentor, or that they play intensely with them. It goes against everything I ever learned about mentors and rubs me wrong and
Like Luna, I’m also getting married to my Dom this year! We have been together seven years in February but it feels so much longer, I think thats a good thing though! When we met I wasn’t planning on it being a romantic relationship, I wasn’t planning on it being a D/s thing either, it
Love, Honour and Obey: thisgirl’s Getting Married! Read More »
To be honest I never gave faith much thought when I discovered I was kinky. I had been drifting away from organized religion for years, but when I read on a blog (which I can’t recall now) that someone was having to come to terms with her Christianity and desires for kink/submission it made me
You Are Not Going To Hell: My Personal Thoughts on Balancing Christianity and Kink Read More »
tina-poLD was inspired by the month long series of Domestic Service on Submissive Guide and has shared her own personal thoughts on the subject. Would you like to chime in? Leave a comment and let us know your own opinion! Domestic service encompasses many aspects of caring for a home and those who live there.
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Before Bathing Make sure that you have all of your supplies ready for use: Shampoo Conditioner Soap or Body Wash Shaving cream Razor Exfoliating scrub Wash cloth Towel: Find out whether they need one or two. Sometimes females need two as that is one for their body and a second for their hair. After Bathing:
How Personal Grooming of Your Dominant Builds a Relaxing Daily Routine Read More »
I think it was at least 3 years into my relationship with my Master before I had to cook for Him. I was terrified at the thought. When I visit Master, He barbecues great steaks or ribs – all meat and potatoes meals. One serving of steak was as much meat as I would eat
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I never used to enjoy domestic duties. In fact there are a number of days where I stare at my cleaning list as if doing that would make it disappear. However, I have slowly seen how having a clean house really makes it a home. Two years ago I stopped working outside the home and
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This post continues the Domestic Servitude Series. Once considered old ladies’ busy work, I’m here to try to bring a comeback to knitting. With knitting you can provide items for the home that will not only last longer but usually work better and are far cheaper (in the long run). Knitting can be a peaceful
Beginning Domestic Service: Basic Knitting Tips and Tutorials Read More »
Age or experience, particularly of the Dominant seems to always been in question no matter where you are. You hear it in forums, at munches and casual gatherings. So much of what we do hinges on that little bit of information. For many submissives that I’m acquainted with, there is no question that experience is important to
Age or Experience: What’s More Important in a Dominant? Read More »
This is a guest post by danae of Domestic Servitude for this month’s Domestic Pleasure Series. Menu planning can save you money, time and just sanity. I menu plan when I make my grocery list. I start by going through my pantry and freezer and throwing out things that are old, expired or don’t look good/smell good.
Beginning Domestic Service: Save Money, Time and Sanity with Menu Planning Read More »
Learning how to mend and patch is an age old skill that used to be second nature, but now it’s a lot easier for people to go out and buy a new pair of jeans when they rip or a new sweater when you lose a button. Clothing has become more disposable. If you are
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service
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The progress of a serious relationship leads to moving in with the other. Whether in a more traditional format after marriage or a modern stand of whenever the relationship is serious enough for that commitment, deciding to do just that takes preparedness. I want to talk about how to prepare yourself and your home for
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Every year many people sit down and make a long list of resolutions they’d like to accomplish in the coming year. It’s a grand idea and one that I tend to participate in every other year or so. But the downfall of this sort of plan is in the timing. You may not be ready
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“We all use these terms freely like Daddy and little, but seriously think back to when you were 4 or 5… Did the thought ever enter your head of where supper came from? How your school clothes appeared in your closet? What caused that warm bed with the covers and teddy bear to be in
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Listening to holiday music on the radio the popular holiday song “Home Sweet Home” comes on and gets me to thinking about my submission. Yeah, I know that sounds silly but stay with me here. When the moments come where I’m filled to overflowing with emotion and love, I realize just how much my submission
Home Sweet Home: What Submission Means to Me This Time of Year Read More »
Being one myself, I have done a lot of research over the years on the affects of this as well as Co-Dependency which is part of what develops most commonly in children and continues to affect us into our adult life. Here is a list of common traits of a child of an Alcoholic compiled
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The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn’t learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal
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