Master and i have been together about a year (known each other for many more). He recently began expressing a desire for a threesome. Because of past experiences, i have very serious issues with this. i have, of course, shared these issues with Master. Unfortunately, this is something He very much wants. i told Him […]
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Like anyone else who’s walking the submissive path, I struggle from time to time. Maybe more times than I really care to admit. There are times where Daddy asks things of me, that I don’t quite want to do or I feel like I don’t have a submissive bone in my body and that makes
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Once you reach a level of comfort with your kinky desires it may be time to go to a BDSM convention. A BDSM convention is much like a convention for any other activity. It is held in a hotel or large convention center with classes and seminars to choose from. There are vendors selling wares
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Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a
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When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is Sub Frenzy
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I am quite new in action to the lifestyle, but far from new in thought. I have known basically forever that I am a submissive…but have been stuck on knowing what to do about it. I am now quite happily with my Sir. He seems very pleased with my natural submissiveness…but we have one are
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In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with
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Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that
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First date jitters are perfectly normal, but it’s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date. Before any first date, avoid thinking about the countless “what if” scenarios and simply go without any expectations. Unfortunately, the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the first time doesn’t go away for
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My Master sometimes wants me to beg for mercy while he’s punishing me. I don’t really mind it, but I just don’t know how to beg for mercy. It’s not the same as begging for an orgasm. I’m not sure how I’m supposed to beg for him to have mercy on me during whippings or
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This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read Part I: Boundaries. Over the past few weeks, the matter of service has come
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Topping from the bottom is a feared act for novice submissives because it holds a negative connotation that the person is somehow not submissive if they top from the bottom. It’s often whispered and sometimes screamed about in all of the online forums dealing with BDSM, and most of them talk about it with disdain,
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When we talk about collars in BDSM, we often mean the symbol of a relationship commitment between two people. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s talk a bit about collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony
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Your personal responsibility is one of the most important tools in a single submissive’s arsenal. It keeps you safe and protected from the most common predators, it will help you learn and grow while waiting and often has a positive result if maintained once you are no longer single. Personal responsibility is all about empowering
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Several years ago, before I met Daddy, I had a mantra that I used to write every day in my journal. It was one of those moments of inspiration for me. I needed something that was going to pull my self-esteem out of the toilet and help me feel better about myself. It went something
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This essay that I wrote was first published on humbledfemales.net but has since taken on new ownership and the article was removed (not sure why). I am now sharing it here because it is good common sense! A submissive’s best protection is her gut instinct. Waking up the fantasies we’ve only held close to our hearts and
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I really don’t know where to start. I am really confused & I don’t know what to do. My Master hasn’t been that ‘masterful’. I have been His sub for almost 5 years. Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all &
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In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.” For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy of
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On my own blog, I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes the purchasing
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When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time, you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost
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