I know what you are thinking when reading the title. How can a submissive get mad at their Dominant? Isn’t a relationship built on trust and communication going to run smoother than one that isn’t? That’s not a very good submissive behavior! No, probably not, but it is a human one and we are humans […]
How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant Read More »
Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada is a weekend for celebrating the good we have in our lives and sharing it with those who are close to us. There is so much to be thankful for and this year, as I look back, I see the amazing abundance that comes to us in various ways, but
Submission in Gratitude Read More »
A few weeks ago, there was a vanilla event that I had the opportunity to volunteer with. It seemed like hundreds of people poured into the building to hear the speaker. There were some key points that he covered, but the one that stood out to me the most was that of contentment. He said
A Key To Slave Bliss: Contentment Read More »
Hi. I am in a master and slave relationship and I am the slave in our relationship. I have moments when I am so clumsy and I really hate it. Sometimes I do things like spill drinks on the floor or on myself. Today I spilled some soda on myself and I also spilled some
I’m So Clumsy! Is There Anything I Can Do? Read More »
Sub drop is the feeling of hopelessness and depression that can follow the extreme rush of endorphins during intense play or sex if the sub is not cared for appropriately afterward. Care varies from person to person – some of us need to be held and cuddled and praised and iced or hot packed accordingly,
Sub Drop From Afar: Managing Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship Read More »
Can I just be really honest with you today? You know what one of the hardest parts about blogging has been for me? It’s that some readers want me to be perfect. I know they’d probably never say out loud, “I expect you to be a perfect submissive,” but if I admit that I don’t know the
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This is a guest post by WKslittle one for the Day in the Life Series. Cap/uncapped writing is the author’s way of written communication and is a common choice for online LDR relationships. The Day in the Life Series is the only time I allow posts with non-standard grammar/spelling methods. If this bothers you, then
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Dear lunaKM, I have been in my first D/s relationship (online) for about a month. What is your view concerning the care, direction, and contact of Dominants w/their subs? I know we are all different, but I have nothing to compare. Contact is spotty and I feel a bit lost. Some days I get a
What Is The Expectation of Communication in an Online D/s Relationship? Read More »
A couple weeks ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that one!
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In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, but not
Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference? Read More »
About 5 years ago I was an emotional mess. I had really poor self-esteem and my body image was even worse. I’ve always been an obese woman – since I was a teen I’ve carried more than a few extra pounds. So the cruel and hateful words of my youth sure contributed to the way
The Day I Stopped Rejecting Compliments and Learned to Love Myself Read More »
This is a guest post by Mia. I was a closet lesbian until 2003 and a closet kinkster until 2010, I lost friends each time I came out. When I told people about my sexuality in 2003 I was called a dyke, a pervert and a liar by some of the people I thought of as
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I recently had a conversation with my boss that went something like this: Boss: “We’d like you to start doing some of your colleague’s work because you’re caught up and she’s behind.” Me: “I would be happy to help, but I see that none of these things are in my job description.” Boss: “They aren’t,
You’re Not the Boss of Me! Empowerment Through Submission Read More »
Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should do’s that awaited us for the day
Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment Read More »
Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference? Read More »
The collar you wear is a reminder of your submission and your relationship with your Dominant. It can mean the same as a wedding ring or that you are submissive to them for a certain period of time. More often than not, the Dominant is the one who gave you that collar. But is there
A Symbol for Dominants? Read More »
Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help
BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive? Read More »
This year, I was sent away for work for almost 3 months. That is a long time to be away from my Master! As the dates approached, I worried about the silly things – would He be able to come and visit? Would my roommate be nice? And ugh – a roommate! I knew it
Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart Read More »
Dear LunaKM, I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle. A little over a month ago, I met a man and started developing a relationship with him. We had many conversations that were about everyday topics and found we had things in common as well as sexual and D/s conversations. He became my Daddy and
I’m Confused. He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting Read More »
Growing up my parents were extremely physically and emotionally abusive. I moved out when I was thirteen, but I carried the previous abuse with me wherever I went. It made me cry when I detected the slightest amount of anger towards me, it made me shake and pull away when people waved their hands at
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