It’s often the case that protocol develops in D/s relationships that start out with a bit of structure to them, whether the relationship intended it or not. While there are some casual style relationships that have protocol, I haven’t seen a lot of it when a relaxed relationship is preferred. Now with that said, I […]
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The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it. After hearing so much about love, the newcomer may end up a bit confused. After all, in the vanilla world, especially in Western culture, love is a really big deal.
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“Oh yeah, that feels good, right here. Spank me there! Harder! No, not like that. Make it sting! Oh oh ouchie, back off a bit man!” For some of you, that stream of words is cringe-worthy. Who’s driving the scene if the bottom is assaulting the Top with all the direction? A submissive driving the
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I have a very important question that I need your opinion on. I have been to your web page many times and appreciate your writing and knowledge. I recently found out that my husband of many years had been having a BDSM relationship outside of our marriage, secretly. We had been talking about BDSM ourselves
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We all knew that the Fifty Shades of Grey movie would bring about a conversation regarding BDSM, non-vanilla relationships, and the nature of consent between adult sexual partners. I read an article discussing the “impact” of the film, and it got me thinking. In the interests of full disclosure, I will tell you that I have read
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Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking
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Do you know how to describe the qualities of a Dominant? What about a jerk? I bet you can describe a jerk a lot faster than a Dominant. Am I right? Have you ever encountered a jerk that identifies as a Dominant but is anything but? It’s common, unfortunately. There are people who like to
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In the last month or so I have begun to seek a mentor and have been approached about being a mentor myself, a position which I accepted. As these events unfolded, I experienced a lot of flak from the online community – why would a submissive need a mentor if she already has a Dom?
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Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you
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I first wrote this on FetLife but I think it’s time I put it here too. Please note that this is just my opinion and may not reflect the views of my contributors or guest authors. I got a request for advice in my email (I get a lot of those). In it detailed an
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Hello Luna I hear people talking constantly and in a profile about being “in a Leather family” or Leather community. My question is simple but I know the answer is not. What does “in a leather family” mean? What is Leather? I know where it started, but what does it mean in today’s BDSM society?
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I love birthdays. I love getting presents and even more than presents, I love getting a birthday cake. Because come on, birthday cake is awesome and it’s not a birthday without cake. My own personal belief. I remember when I was younger, I kept pondering ways to make my birthday a national holiday. For the
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Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you
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It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master? The short answer to this question is – yeah! We all can pursue the dynamics that we desire with whom we desire. But there’s obviously far more to unpack
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another. Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions in how they play out
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This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s
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One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing
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I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved into a polyamorous dynamic shortly after
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First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 10 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything, BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter. Two years ago I
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February is the love month. In the stores, everything is red, pink, and white. There are roses, teddy bears, and chocolate everywhere you turn. Actually, here, everything has looked that way since before Christmas was even over. It is a wonderful thing to celebrate the love we have for one another. I do think that
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