This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another. Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions in how they play out […]
Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW! Read More »
This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s
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One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing
Feeling Down After a Play Session? You Could Have Sub Drop Read More »
I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved into a polyamorous dynamic shortly after
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First published on KinkAcademy.com. I wrote this almost 10 years ago and am sharing it again with you here. As with everything, BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter. Two years ago I
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February is the love month. In the stores, everything is red, pink, and white. There are roses, teddy bears, and chocolate everywhere you turn. Actually, here, everything has looked that way since before Christmas was even over. It is a wonderful thing to celebrate the love we have for one another. I do think that
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Hello lunaKM, I have a Dom friend that has been helping explore and figure out this wonderful world of BDSM. I have been seeing him for a few months and we are moving into more of a relationship and not just scenes. My question is how do I ask him for the discipline/attention when I
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Communication is key – I say it in every article, but it becomes no less true. Communication is imperative to any relationship, especially one in which your physical and mental health are at risk. This week I have had trouble. Master is very interested in entering into a poly-dynamic. While this initially sounded very attractive
Talking Even When Words Are Hard: Opening the Lines of Communication With Your Dominant Read More »
I used to hate giving blow jobs. I am sure it could be argued that I still don’t love them, but the mind shift has certainly come a long way in the positive for KnyghtMare. My history with giving oral sex is one I’ve heard from a few of you. Your first experiences were not
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Are you looking for a magic spell? That unique formulae that will guarantee you the results you want? Well, there isn’t any trick. Not really… If you are looking for a lifetime partner,
Finding Your Dominant: Dating when BDSM is Something You Need Read More »
Dear lunaKM, As a slave in training, I start doubting my worth when I don’t get a response within an hour. –impatient We hear this one a lot. The silence between messages can feel so heavy, especially when your heart is deeply invested. But here’s the truth: your value isn’t defined by someone else’s response
What Do I Do While I Wait for a Response from My Long Distance Dominant? Read More »
Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there are a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I
Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles Read More »
A safeword is your lifeline in play—a vital way to communicate when you’ve reached a physical or emotional limit. For those who play with safewords, there’s often an unspoken expectation that they’re reserved for serious moments, making submissives hesitant to use them. But remember, using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While
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So, I am very new to this. I met Sir online and he asked me what do I expect from this relationship? My question is how do I figure out exactly what it is that I expect? I know I expect him to teach me everything, to help me learn my limits. Any help with
Figure Out What to Expect From a Relationship Before Entering a Relationship Read More »
Last year I wrote about the importance of revising your contracts at the start of the New Year so you can make sure that it reflects your current relationship parameters and hard/soft limits. I’m still a single submissive, and (for the time being) I’m enjoying this journey of self-discovery and self-improvement. One thing that single submissives must always remember is
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Do you trust everything you read? You shouldn’t. I suggest you not listen to everything I have to say. Why? Some if it might not be right or true for you and if that’s the case then what you read isn’t for you. It could even be based on fiction instead of reality. I’ve recently
Under the Microscope: Analyzing What You Read About BDSM for the Truth Read More »
So I kinda would like to explore bigger toys in my butt, but you hear all these myths. Like, if you go too big you’ll make your butthole so loose you become incontinent and other gross stuff. Is this true? No. In fact, just like the vagina, the muscles in the anus are incredibly elastic
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Butt Stretching Read More »
For whatever reason, it seems that many members of the BDSM community are in long-distance or temporarily long-distance relationships with our dominants. In some of the online forums I am a part of I regularly see submissives and babygirls freaking out in the days before their dominant arrives for a visit – as I am
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It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with! I’m going
BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With? Read More »
We sat in a friend’s living room as they showed us their collection of floggers. Each one a little different from the last. Some with more weight in the handle, some with thin tails, and still others were fluffy. This is what my introduction to kinky toys looked like. Floggers are a very common first
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