Welcome to the first day of an entire month of ideas to improve your domestic service. The things we’ll cover pertain to home care and as I’m not perfect, some of it will be sharing my challenges and things I’ve learned as I embraced the stay at home slave role 7 years ago. A few […]
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I have a dear friend in my local lifestyle. She’s the owner of a private BDSM dungeon. She’s a master (she doesn’t like the term ‘mistress’) with a devoted slave. She trains and mentors submissives. She bottoms with people she trusts. She’s also a professional FemDom with clients who meet with her on a weekly
You Can’t Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little Read More »
October is going to be a frenzy of domestic and home management tips here at SubmissiveGuide.com. Starting Thursday I’m going to turn up the ‘Domestic Tips’ volume to 11 and am going to attempt to vomit onto you everything I know about how to make your home management and domestic service better. Each post will
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I logged onto Fetlife one early Friday morning with a steamy cup of joe and saw this message straight away: I was there last night but didn’t get out of my truck. I was still in my work clothes and didn’t really know how to find you guys. Maybe I’ll try again next month. As
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A common topic of conversation among my friends is that after several years with their partners, their sex life becomes stale. The pizzazz and excitement of sex dissipates over time as you exhaust many of the sexual options that you have and learn how to work your partner’s body. Sex becomes mundane and more of
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Sharing your masturbation sessions with a Dominant can feel nerve-wracking at first—but it doesn’t have to. This guide explores why watching arousal is such a turn-on and how to move past embarrassment into confidence. Discover how to transform vulnerability into intimacy and make this act deeply satisfying for both of you.
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Submission doesn’t mean silence. Too often, subs believe they shouldn’t express needs once the dynamic is set—but that’s a myth. This guide helps submissives learn how to communicate openly, ask for what they need, and strengthen their D/s relationship with honesty and clarity. Because submission is active, not passive.
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One of the many delightful side-effects of moving to the same country as my Dom is that we get to actually DO couple things. We get to go out on dates, go out with other couples as a couple, invite people to our home for dinner parties—all of the grown up stuff that my parents
Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public Read More »
The other day, my little sister gentlerayne, sent me a text message. She told me that I needed to check out this post in a Fetlife group. And boy, was she angry. Being angry isn’t her normal behavior. She’s very soft-spoken and a gentle soul. I knew whatever made her angry, was probably gonna irritate
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. I am not
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Subspace – This term generally is used to describe a moderate to deep trancelike condition experienced by persons in the submissive position in a D/s relationship during interaction with the person in the
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I have this habit whenever I read something that has hyperlinks in the article, I tend to open those hyperlinks. This causes me to usually have anywhere from 10-20 tabs open in my browser. But anyways, I was reading something and it led me to a website. At the same time, I was reading the
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When I first accepted BDSM into my life, it was like opening a hidden door to my soul and walking through it. That destination, that place of arrival, had nothing to do with sex. (Well, maybe the tiniest bit.) My marriage was dying. It was my second marriage (quite the accomplishment for being in my mid-twenties) and the first
Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better Read More »
Punishment isn’t just about correction—it’s an opportunity for growth. In this article, we explore the deeper lessons submissives can learn from discipline: repairing trust, releasing guilt, and moving forward with humility. Mistakes happen, but with reflection, punishment can become a path to progress and stronger submission.
So what sort of BDSM partner is it you’re looking for? It seems like such a simple question, after all when we think about BDSM we immediately picture a casual encounter where anything goes. However, that is simply not the case, much like any situation involving two consenting people the options available to you are
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When we imagine an ideal world, it’s pretty safe to say that for most of us, that perfect world wouldn’t include illness, disabilities, and death. Everyone would have bodies that are strong, capable, and able to do any and all activities the heart desires. On this side of creation, that type of world doesn’t exist,
M/s and When Life Happens: Dealing With Health Challenges and Death Read More »
Exploring how to introduce your kinky desires to a partner can feel intimidating. This article offers subtle ways to signal your submissive interests while emphasizing the importance of clear, direct communication. Learn how to balance hints with honest conversation so your needs are understood and your dynamic grows stronger.
Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Kinky Interests? Read More »
It’s not pleasant, but it’s a reality that many relationships face, even when those relationships are kinky. It’s not the preference of one activity over another, but the desire for any activity at all; it’s the age old question: are you up for it? and the difference between your response and your partner’s. Having a
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Getting back into BDSM is harder than getting into it in the first place. This sounds counterintuitive – you know the safewords and one another’s fetishes, you’ve done your research, you just took a little break. Turns out that little break for a few months actually has a major impact on your kink relationship. For
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The 1950s Head of Household style of power exchange often sparks curiosity and debate in the BDSM community. This article examines what the dynamic really means, how it differs from other traditions, and why it appeals to some couples. A reflective look at structure, tradition, and submission in modern relationships.
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