This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Subspace – This term generally is used to describe a moderate to deep trancelike condition experienced by persons in the submissive position in a D/s relationship during interaction with the person in the […]
Defining Sub Space Read More »
I have this habit whenever I read something that has hyperlinks in the article, I tend to open those hyperlinks. This causes me to usually have anywhere from 10-20 tabs open in my browser. But anyways, I was reading something and it led me to a website. At the same time, I was reading the
BDSM Isn’t Just About Power Exchange Read More »
When I first accepted BDSM into my life, it was like opening a hidden door to my soul and walking through it. That destination, that place of arrival, had nothing to do with sex. (Well, maybe the tiniest bit.) My marriage was dying. It was my second marriage (quite the accomplishment for being in my mid-twenties) and the first
Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better Read More »
Punishment isn’t just about correction—it’s an opportunity for growth. In this article, we explore the deeper lessons submissives can learn from discipline: repairing trust, releasing guilt, and moving forward with humility. Mistakes happen, but with reflection, punishment can become a path to progress and stronger submission.
So what sort of BDSM partner is it you’re looking for? It seems like such a simple question, after all when we think about BDSM we immediately picture a casual encounter where anything goes. However, that is simply not the case, much like any situation involving two consenting people the options available to you are
BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings Read More »
When we imagine an ideal world, it’s pretty safe to say that for most of us, that perfect world wouldn’t include illness, disabilities, and death. Everyone would have bodies that are strong, capable, and able to do any and all activities the heart desires. On this side of creation, that type of world doesn’t exist,
M/s and When Life Happens: Dealing With Health Challenges and Death Read More »
Exploring how to introduce your kinky desires to a partner can feel intimidating. This article offers subtle ways to signal your submissive interests while emphasizing the importance of clear, direct communication. Learn how to balance hints with honest conversation so your needs are understood and your dynamic grows stronger.
Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Kinky Interests? Read More »
It’s not pleasant, but it’s a reality that many relationships face, even when those relationships are kinky. It’s not the preference of one activity over another, but the desire for any activity at all; it’s the age old question: are you up for it? and the difference between your response and your partner’s. Having a
Coping with Different Sex Drives in a Relationship Read More »
Getting back into BDSM is harder than getting into it in the first place. This sounds counterintuitive – you know the safewords and one another’s fetishes, you’ve done your research, you just took a little break. Turns out that little break for a few months actually has a major impact on your kink relationship. For
Getting Back Into The Game: Returning to Kink After a Break Read More »
The 1950s Head of Household style of power exchange often sparks curiosity and debate in the BDSM community. This article examines what the dynamic really means, how it differs from other traditions, and why it appeals to some couples. A reflective look at structure, tradition, and submission in modern relationships.
An Overview of 1950’s Head of Household Style Power Exchange Read More »
The things that test us aren’t always outside forces. Sure, our friends, family, and partners will test us from time to time – whether they mean to or not. In my experience, though, the things that test us the most come from within… Whenever I introduce myself to the kink community, I refer to myself
Submission is a Choice That Will be Tested Read More »
Submissives often struggle to express their sexual needs, but those needs matter as much as a Dominant’s. This article explores why communication is vital, how to speak up without guilt, and why ignoring your desires can harm intimacy. A reminder that healthy power exchange requires mutual respect and open dialogue.
Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship) Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. “I am looking for a NEW SUBMISSIVE to collar as my slave.” Why? This comment is perhaps one of the more common statements made by Male Dominant names in Internet chat rooms. It
The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants Read More »
In a poly triad, feeling like a “third wheel” can cause frustration and hurt—especially when one partner leans on marital status for power. This article explores how to address conflict, express concerns, and work with your Dominant to restore balance and equality within the dynamic.
Poly Conflict: Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad Read More »
Some of us live our D/s lives out in the open, letting family and friends know who and what we are – and dealing with any fallout from people who don’t understand the lifestyle. To you, I have much love and respect. I’m not there yet…and maybe I never will be. Others, like myself, keep
How to Deal With the Question of Being Kinky and a Parent Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. When I started
Embracing Your Label – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
My partner and I just went through the strenuous process of apartment hunting and I realized along the way, that there are many similarities between apartment hunting and hunting for a compatible partner. These similarities are applicable both in vanilla and kinky relationships, but I believe, they are more pronounced in kink. When you begin
How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting Read More »
A common misunderstanding that people who are new to the scene seem to have is that kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated. This is especially true if the participants in
When Kinky isn’t Sexy Read More »
Using a dating site to find a partner that is interested in power exchange and BDSM is a difficult prospect. Many people abandon mainstream sites in hopes that kink social networks and other forums will provide them with a partner that is compatible and looking for the same kind of relationship. I feel that the
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Do submissives really get to have a voice? This article explores how to speak up with honesty and respect in a D/s relationship while avoiding “speaking out.” Learn how sharing your needs and feelings strengthens trust, communication, and your dynamic with your Dominant.
Finding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest Communication Read More »
