Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question! I am not sure if this topic has been covered before, but I couldn’t find much info on it. I was hoping you could share some advice on balancing a d/s relationship and family.To be more specific, I’d like to know how to handle instances such as […]
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As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM.
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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I know it’s still the beginning of January, but we all know how fast time flies and before we know it, February will be here and that’s when the clock really starts ticking. So, it’s never too early to plan ahead (says the girl who was finished with
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Keeping your home clean can feel endless—but sometimes the problem isn’t effort, it’s habit. This post explores common cleaning pitfalls and how to tackle clutter with mindful organization and practical strategies. Learn how to create a calmer, more functional space with a focused cleaning and organizing purge.
Getting My Home Together – A Cleaning and Organizing Purge Read More »
Rituals aren’t just for 24/7 dynamics—they can enrich any D/s relationship. Explore five practical ways rituals enhance submission, deepen intimacy, and strengthen your connection with your Dominant. This guide helps you integrate meaningful practices into your life, whether you’re long-distance, online, or living together.
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic Read More »
Opening a relationship when it’s already unstable can be risky. This article explores the challenges of balancing BDSM needs, fear, and relationship repair. Discover insights for partners navigating uncertainty, and resources to better understand power exchange while protecting the foundation of your primary relationship.
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Curious about polyamory or exploring ethical non-monogamy? This post compiles trusted polyamory resources from across the web—articles, books, and online communities—to help you understand, communicate, and grow in multi-partner relationships. A great starting point for learning how polyamory works in real, healthy, and ethical ways.
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The end of a D/s relationship can be devastating for both Dominants and submissives. This article explores how release affects each side, the role of aftercare even post-relationship, and healthy ways to process grief, guilt, and loss while beginning the journey of healing.
Coping with Release: The End of the D/s Relationship Read More »
Being spanked isn’t just about enjoying pain—it’s about the release of control, emotional permission, and the intimacy of power exchange. This article explores the psychological and emotional appeal of spanking in BDSM and why many submissives find it fulfilling beyond the sting of impact.
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked Read More »
Transitioning from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy is like starting a new career after years in one field—it takes unlearning, growth, and patience. This article explores how to navigate the shift, manage expectations, and embrace new dynamics while honoring both your past and your future in love.
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Sometimes you’re not fully in the mood for kinky sex—and that’s okay. This article explores sexual compromise in BDSM, how to recognize when your body and mind aren’t aligned, and ways to communicate honestly with your partner while still honoring your boundaries and your own sexual needs.
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Exploring masochism when mental illness is part of the picture can be daunting. This article offers guidance on recognizing healthy versus unhealthy triggers, starting safe conversations with your Dominant, and seeking professional support when needed—so you can balance desire, trust, and well-being in your dynamic.
Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue Read More »
Submission often begins as a want—but for many, it becomes a core need. This reflection explores how everyday challenges can highlight the importance of power exchange, why acknowledging submission as a need strengthens your dynamic, and how to communicate that truth with your Dominant.
Talking to Your Dominant: When A Desire Becomes a Need Read More »
Winter depression, or Seasonal Affective Disorder, impacts many submissives—changing energy, emotions, and even dynamics. This reflection shares personal struggles with SAD, its effect on submission, and the importance of focusing on joy, gratitude, and healing. A reminder that even in dark seasons, beauty and light can be found.
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Grief touches every relationship, including D/s. When a Dominant suffers loss, submissives may wonder how to help while honoring their role. This article shares personal experience and practical lessons on supporting a grieving partner with compassion, patience, and strength—reminding us that D/s dynamics adapt, but love and care remain constant.
Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness Read More »
Kneeling is often symbolic in D/s, but what happens when knee pain gets in the way? This article explores realistic tips and alternatives for submissives with knee pain—from positioning adjustments to communication with your Dominant—so you can remain comfortable, safe, and devoted without unnecessary suffering.
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Looking for a Dominant partner but not sure where to start? This post gathers helpful resources and practical advice for finding compatible Dominants online and in real life. Learn how to approach D/s dating with confidence, recognize red flags, and build connections rooted in trust and authenticity.
Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them Read More »
Exploring online submission can be exciting—but also confusing without clear guidance. This article addresses what to do when your “Dom” gives no direction, how to spot red flags, and why communication and boundaries matter. Learn how to protect yourself while enjoying an online D/s relationship safely and with confidence.
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Many submissives work demanding jobs that leave them depleted before coming home to serve. This article explores how exhaustion impacts submission and offers advice for creating recovery time, negotiating expectations with your Dominant, and practicing grace with yourself. Learn how to balance obedience with the reality of physical and emotional fatigue.
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