Exploring online submission can be exciting—but also confusing without clear guidance. This article addresses what to do when your “Dom” gives no direction, how to spot red flags, and why communication and boundaries matter. Learn how to protect yourself while enjoying an online D/s relationship safely and with confidence.
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Many submissives work demanding jobs that leave them depleted before coming home to serve. This article explores how exhaustion impacts submission and offers advice for creating recovery time, negotiating expectations with your Dominant, and practicing grace with yourself. Learn how to balance obedience with the reality of physical and emotional fatigue.
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At the beginning of the series, I addressed the idea that the final layer of the way we perceive ourselves is a product of how others perceive us. Although the focus of the series technically is building routines around grooming and health to maintain your own self-image, it would be unfair to ignore what I
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This was probably the trickiest piece to add to the series. None of this is actually meant to be soapboxing, but because body image is such a hot-button topic, it was difficult to keep this short, effective, and yet general enough that I’m not trying to dictate the way that people should eat and exercise
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As I stated in the introduction to my article about the upkeep of hair, the care that you give you nails, feet and hands play an important role in how you present yourself to other people, and as such, their upkeep can greatly boost your sense of self-worth. Again, this is partially achieved by giving
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Whether you’re a little, a slave, or a sub, the condition of your hands and hair can make or break your appearance. Just like wearing a costume, you’d never put on an outfit and then leave your hair to do its natural thing, and the remnants of your three week old nail polish on your
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It’s probably a cliché to start this article with a play on the adage, “beauty is only skin deep,” but let’s face it, when you’re embarking on a conversation about your complexion, there really is no better way to start. Taking care of your skin is incredibly important, not just on your face, but on
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The concepts of self-esteem and body image hugely hot topics for individuals of all life styles, but I have found it is especially poignant in Dominant/submissive life styles because sex plays such a vital role in our everyday lives rather than just the bedroom. When you’re being asked to put your body on display for
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An abusive childhood has made me incredibly prone to feeling guilty. Someone else can drop a glass and shatter it and I will twist the situation in my mind in such a way that I caused that to happen – it is my fault that the glass broke. I absorb that persons guilt as my
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Bimbofication can feel exciting and overwhelming, especially when old beliefs tie femininity to “sluttiness.” This article explores how to navigate the emotional challenges of transformation, communicate with your Dominant about pacing, and reframe feminine expression as empowering instead of shameful. Baby steps, self-reflection, and reframing can help you thrive.
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Starting a new BDSM group can feel daunting, but it’s a rewarding way to build community. From choosing a focus to finding venues and spreading the word, this guide walks you through the essentials of organizing your own munch or kink group safely, ethically, and with confidence.
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. In the first
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Welcome to part five in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area . Attending a
Welcome to part four in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area . Attending a
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Welcome to part three in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area . Attending a munch,
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Welcome to part two in this week’s series all about how to help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. You might like to read the previous post about using online resources to find kinksters. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other
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Welcome to the first part in a series I hope will help you feel more comfortable entering and becoming a part of the local BDSM community. Some of the best education I’ve received as a submissive, especially on the different ways other people live the D/s life, have been from people in my local area.
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Coupons and couponing have been given a bad wrap with the reality TV shows that show extreme coupon users. I know I’ve sat in awe of the people who use hundreds of coupons for their grocery order and somehow get their purchase to mere cents. Of course what they aren’t sharing in the TV show
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By now you should have a handle on your stockpile, meal plan and understand how to use a price book. Today we’ll cover shopping in season. When we talk about shopping in season it often relates to produce but that’s not the only thing that has a season. What other things can you think of
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How often has this scenario happened to you? You make a quick trip to your favorite grocery store. You buy two items from your list: a head of lettuce and a can of diced tomatoes. The store was out of sour cream, so you decide to swing by another store on the way home, a
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