Have you ever felt like you are all alone in this loud crowded world of kink? That the things you enjoy are uncommon. Or perhaps you have circumstances that govern how you play or what your relationships are like. It’s not that you are alone, not at all. The world of kink is huge and […]
Thank you Kayla Lords for tackling these questions! We received two questions both asking about BDSM and sexual experience, so in an effort to help everyone with the same kinds of questions, today is a two-fer. Dear lunaKM, Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub? Everything I know about submission is from
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I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate.
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style Read More »
A friend of mine called me up the other day to talk. She wanted to know how to talk to her partner about some new kink desires that she had. See she’s what I have always considered kink-lite compared to the way KnyghtMare and I live so while she’s easy to get along with we
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Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he is thrilled. But he tells me I need to research in order
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Okay, so here I go again stepping into what may be a heated topic for many people, but I’m going to say it anyway. Kink and alcohol (or drug use) don’t mix. Now, let me clarify what I mean. If you drink or smoke pot or do something else, more power to you. Me? I
Alcohol and Kink Don’t Mix – Being Under the Influence Negates Consent Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. I want you
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This isn’t one of my usual posts that have some sort of resolution in the conclusion because this is something I’m working through and this post is created at least in part as a portion of the out-working. With this in mind, I’m looking forward to your feedback in the comments! This is something that’s
Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value? Read More »
Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question! I am not sure if this topic has been covered before, but I couldn’t find much info on it. I was hoping you could share some advice on balancing a d/s relationship and family.To be more specific, I’d like to know how to handle instances such as
Balancing D/s: Needing Permission to Go Out With Family Read More »
As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM.
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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I know it’s still the beginning of January, but we all know how fast time flies and before we know it, February will be here and that’s when the clock really starts ticking. So, it’s never too early to plan ahead (says the girl who was finished with
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Keeping your home clean can feel endless—but sometimes the problem isn’t effort, it’s habit. This post explores common cleaning pitfalls and how to tackle clutter with mindful organization and practical strategies. Learn how to create a calmer, more functional space with a focused cleaning and organizing purge.
Getting My Home Together – A Cleaning and Organizing Purge Read More »
Rituals aren’t just for 24/7 dynamics—they can enrich any D/s relationship. Explore five practical ways rituals enhance submission, deepen intimacy, and strengthen your connection with your Dominant. This guide helps you integrate meaningful practices into your life, whether you’re long-distance, online, or living together.
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic Read More »
Opening a relationship when it’s already unstable can be risky. This article explores the challenges of balancing BDSM needs, fear, and relationship repair. Discover insights for partners navigating uncertainty, and resources to better understand power exchange while protecting the foundation of your primary relationship.
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Curious about polyamory or exploring ethical non-monogamy? This post compiles trusted polyamory resources from across the web—articles, books, and online communities—to help you understand, communicate, and grow in multi-partner relationships. A great starting point for learning how polyamory works in real, healthy, and ethical ways.
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The end of a D/s relationship can be devastating for both Dominants and submissives. This article explores how release affects each side, the role of aftercare even post-relationship, and healthy ways to process grief, guilt, and loss while beginning the journey of healing.
Coping with Release: The End of the D/s Relationship Read More »
Being spanked isn’t just about enjoying pain—it’s about the release of control, emotional permission, and the intimacy of power exchange. This article explores the psychological and emotional appeal of spanking in BDSM and why many submissives find it fulfilling beyond the sting of impact.
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked Read More »
Transitioning from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy is like starting a new career after years in one field—it takes unlearning, growth, and patience. This article explores how to navigate the shift, manage expectations, and embrace new dynamics while honoring both your past and your future in love.
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Sometimes you’re not fully in the mood for kinky sex—and that’s okay. This article explores sexual compromise in BDSM, how to recognize when your body and mind aren’t aligned, and ways to communicate honestly with your partner while still honoring your boundaries and your own sexual needs.
Sexual Compromise: When You’re Only A Little Horny Read More »
