With so many great BDSM-related podcasts out there, it’s easier than ever to learn, grow, and feel connected to the community. Whether you’re looking for educational deep dives, personal stories, or just good conversations about kink, there’s something for everyone. Here are a few of the podcasts I’m currently listening to: Erotic Awakening Podcast is […]
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Submissive Frenzy, or “sub frenzy,” is an intense psychological state where submissive desires feel overwhelming and urgent. It can cloud judgment, leading to risky decisions and emotional turmoil. Understanding its causes and signs—like desperation for connection, impaired judgment, and risky behavior—can help you navigate it safely. Read more here!
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Question: My husband and I are in a D/s relationship. However, I’m the one who runs the house, takes care of the kids, and is always the one “in charge.” How can he and I maintain our dynamic? How do I stay in touch with my submissive side? Answer: Being the one who manages the
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Cultivating a positive mindset is essential for every submissive’s journey. Learn how to reframe negative thoughts, practice self-care, and embrace self-compassion to strengthen your submission and personal growth. Discover practical tools to shift your perspective and build confidence in yourself and your dynamic.
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It is really easy to understand managing vanilla relationships around others (including kids living at home). It boils down to understanding one crucial concept: discretion. Discretion: the quality of behaving or speaking in a way to avoid causing offence or (IMPORTANTLY) revealing confidential information. We can mostly agree that kissing your spouse “bye” in front
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Question: I’ve been a voracious reader of BDSM and D/S erotic novels for years and am not sure if I enjoy it just as entertainment or because I feel like something might be missing from my life. How do you know if you are a submissive, and if you think you might be, how do
Question: Is there ever a time when it’s ok to tell your Dominant no when he tells you to do something? Answer: Absolutely. While submission involves obedience and trust, it doesn’t mean blind compliance. There are several situations where saying “no” is not only acceptable but necessary: A healthy D/s dynamic is built on mutual
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When a BDSM scene goes wrong, knowing how to respond can make all the difference. This guide for submissives explores common issues like ignored safewords, emotional triggers, injuries, and consent violations—plus practical steps to recover, protect yourself, and build resilience for future play. Stay safe, informed, and empowered in your BDSM journey.
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Full Question: During my research on Submissive Guide, I’ve learned about personal protocol. I don’t have a dom currently and am looking to understand more about punishments and rewards for personal protocol. What kinds of punishments and rewards do you implement into your personal protocol, or would you recommend for a sub without a dom?
Short answer: no. And the kinky person shouldn’t expect you to. In any healthy relationship, whether kinky or not, communication, respect, and mutual understanding are key. If one partner has specific needs or desires, the other person needs to be open to listening and discussing them, even if they don’t share those interests. However, this
Curious about hucow play in BDSM? Discover a personal journey into embracing a playful, sensual cow identity. Learn how to explore your own hucow persona, build a unique “cow-tfit,” create immersive scenes, and connect with a welcoming community. Perfect for beginners ready to moo-ve into this fun and empowering kink!
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Full Question: Can two BDSM submissives have a regular vanilla relationship? What happens as the couple grows closer, and one person wants the other to change to a Top/Dom? Answer: Let’s start by saying there is no “normal relationship.” Can two submissives have a successful vanilla relationship together? The answer is “yes, two people can
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Full Question: I’ve been with Master for almost 9 months, and although I love our relationship, I feel there is a disconnect with my submission. Recently, I’ve been acting out and just messing up. It’s not all a conscious decision; I just do some of it without thought or plan. I don’t know how to
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Full Question: I’ve identified as a masochist for a fair bit now, but I have recently discovered that I can’t handle as much as I used to. I’m just wondering, can someone who once enjoyed pain not enjoy it as much anymore? Answer: It’s absolutely possible for a masochist’s tolerance or preference for pain to
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Full Question: I want to be submissive sexually but equal in day-to-day life. How to find a partner? Answer: The term you’re likely going to be using more readily while you search for a partner is “bedroom-only” submissive. And your partner would then be a “bedroom-only” Dominant. This type of relationship is more common than
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Full Question: Do you have any advice for someone already in a committed relationship (marriage, for example) who discovers that she is submissive or at least has submissive tendencies? Until this discovery, the sex was mostly vanilla with very light choking play occasionally (so my partner MIGHT have some interest). Answer: I have lived this
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Saying ‘no’ is a powerful act of self-respect, even in submission. Learn how to honor yourself, set boundaries, and embrace the empowerment that comes with maintaining autonomy as a submissive.
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Full Question: I like to be a brat sometimes. Is that a turn-off for the Doms in general? A lot of them don’t like brats. Answer: Being a brat in the BDSM community is a unique and valid role within the spectrum of submission. It’s not a turn-off for all Dominants; in fact, many Doms
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As submissives, we constantly learn and explore ourselves and the activities that bring us closer to our inner peace. We question our thoughts, ask deep questions, and look for answers. It’s part of what makes us so amazing, right? We are fueled by the passion to submit and serve. While exploring desires, setting boundaries, and
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Full Question: In a polyamorous D/s dynamic, can play partners be a primary partner? Or should it be someone who is serving the Dominant? Answer: In a polyamorous D/s dynamic, the roles and relationships can be quite fluid and are often defined by the individuals involved based on their needs, desires, and agreements. Play partners
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