This is a six-part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations. I want to briefly mention safety in the beginning […]
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing. Some submissives will talk about ‘hitting the Wall’ or ‘White Out’. This is
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At some point in our community participation we will come face to face with the question of poly vs. monogamy. Even if it’s a fleeting thought of wondering if either is better for our personal relationships, we’re still confronted with the possibility. I think that even in examining the possibility it can force us to
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Hello SG, I’m struggling with a problem that has been following me for quite some time now. My Dominant and I have been through hell and high water, involving ‘light’ cheating (sexting each other, meeting up, but did not have sex) while I was away on holiday with family. This was almost a year ago. I
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A month or so ago, I wrote a brief review of the Bullet Journal system, and of how I’ve found it to be really helpful in keeping my household duties and side projects in order. My review focused primarily on the standard ways that you can use the book to get yourself into the habit of
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Discover 9 must-read books on BDSM and D/s relationships that I’ve read more than once. From classic essentials to new gems, these books are perfect for learning and revisiting the world of power exchange.
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Ask a new parent, kinky or not, about their sex life, and they’ll probably say, “What sex life?” When you’re only getting a couple hours of sleep at a time or feeding a baby around the clock, sex is usually the last thing on your mind. While D/s relationships tend to have more communication about
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With kids, it’s inevitable that they’re going to ask questions that make you want to curl up into a ball, cover your ears, and sing, “La-la-la, I can’t hear you!” This isn’t a kink thing, it’s a parent thing. However, as a kinkster, there’s a chance that, eventually, they’ll see or hear something and ask
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When someone asks me how it’s possible to be kinky when you have kids, I know they’re imagining that it must be difficult to have a scene, enjoy kinky sex, or do anything remotely kinky as a parent. It’s not impossible to get kinky, but it requires creativity and discipline. It also depends on how
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As a submissive who has to interact with the outside world whether that’s work, family, or going to the grocery store, you already know that it can be hard to switch back and forth between roles and expectations. Frankly, after a long week of being my vanilla self, I’m exhausted, cranky, and usually feeling not-so-submissive.
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When I talk about my life as a kinkster, I talk about being a parent of two kids. It shocks a lot of people to know I’m in a 24/7 D/s relationship and a parent. A lot of people ask, “How can you be a parent and a submissive?” I always imagine there’s a bit
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Dear Submissive Guide, In May I met a wonderful Dom online. We talked on the phone every night and I was over the moon for him. He was the first to say I love you and my self-protect wall started to melt. In my dating profile, I was explicit about not wanting to relocate because
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Well, the month is over and I hope you learned about submissive journaling and how to open up by writing! I had a great time putting this series together for you but I know I probably missed some of the things you wanted to know! I’ll also include some great journaling resources and links around
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We are nearly to the end of the Submissive Journaling series here on Submissive Guide. This month has been chock full of tips, tricks, and how-tos for journaling and I hope you have picked up some good ideas for your own journaling needs. So, this is where I ask you what you thought of the
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Facebook, FetLife, LinkedIn, Twitter, Ning, Digg, MeetUp, blogs, Instagram, KIK, etc., — the number of social networking sites and tools is exploding. Social networking is the killer app of the Internet for everyone. Such sites have become links to communicate with businesses, news, brands, celebrities, and friends, are a way to find your next job or the
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When I first started journaling (on an online blog) I loved sharing quotes that I liked. They touched me in some way or reminding me of how I was feeling at the time. Whatever the case may be for why you like a quote; quotes inspire us, they give us a tidbit of thought and
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One of the main ways I’ve used my personal blog for years is as a brain dump. A brain dump is a method of releasing all the clutter that’s in your head at the time. Whether that be a rant or a moment of stress or a way to sort out intense emotions. Submissive Journaling
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You have the basics down for journaling, you’ve read up on journal prompts and making book notes and writing scene reports like a boss what more can there be in a submissive journal? Well, lots of things actually! Today it’s being thankful. A wonderful thing to consider when journaling is to add a gratitude log/journal. I
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I’ll never forget during my first few months of being involved in the Lifestyle community, I ran into someone who frequented my back-then place of employment at a local play party. Personally, it didn’t faze me any at all due to my thinking – we’re at the same place pretty much for the same reason,
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Submissive journaling is not just about writing a diary. Journaling is what you want it to be. It can be lists of things, thoughts, rants, collections, habit tracking and so much more. It can also be a big part of your personal growth and self-discovery. One of the best ways to do that is through
