Playing with rope is one of the first things that I was exposed to when I discovered kink. To me it was safe and tame and something that didn’t scream kinky freak to me. Besides that I didn’t know what I was doing, the person that I chose to introduce me to a bit of rope did and it was a fantastic first experience all around.
Being bound is highly erotic. I was instructed to do some stretches so that my muscles were ready for the tense and stressful positions that I would be placed in. This bondage wasn’t about putting me in place for something else; it was going to be the main event.
My mind went through a number of thoughts as he ran his hands through the rope in preparation for putting it on my body. I wondered if I would be able to hold the poses for long. I wanted to know if it would hurt. He explained that it would hurt only if I wanted it to. I would later find out that I liked it to hurt a bit.
A lot of what a Top goes through before applying ropes a bottom also needs to mentally prepare. After all, rope is a dance. It’s an intimate connection between two people and one medium. There is an art to well applied ropes and the bottom is the canvas. Your body, no matter what it looks like can be beautiful in ropes. I learned quickly that even though I had far too much weight for my preference that it looked great bubbling and puckering through ropes. It’s hard to explain but the sensation of your body pressing against ropes is a delirious feeling.
A rope bondage scene is not a fast scene. It takes time to get all tied up. A good rope bottom will savor every touch and feel while the ropes are going on. They will listen to their top and move their hair or arms or other body parts into place or out-of-the-way as needed. We let the artist paint. As the ropes tighten and pull us into shape the tension of our muscles starts to turn on the endorphins.
A rope bottom can go into sub space with just the feel of ropes and restriction of movement. The longer they stay in a stressful position can pull them deeper. Other bottoms like to struggle and still more like to try to get out once they are in the ropes. I am the first type. I like to lay in the ropes and just feel them pull me into space.
I do like to struggle though but usually when the rope is a vehicle for other play and not the main course. So if we use the rope for a flogging scene or something I like to struggle against my bonds and feel the rope bite my flesh or even burn. Rope burn is one of my favorite things when it’s lovingly given.
Being in rope is a perfect time to feel completely vulnerable and I let everything go. I can’t get free until he wants me to be and that is a peaceful feeling. I surrender to his wishes and the world slows to a haze. While other forms of play need some interaction, rope bondage is about not reacting. It’s about holding completely still in your binds and accepting the pain in your muscles, the ache in your joints and the tight restriction of your movement.
As the ropes come off, because you have to take them off sometime, the marks are sexy, and if you like rope burn this is the time to get it. Go slow with beginning to move again. Your body has been frozen in place so it will do some screaming at you while you recover your normal movements. I recommend more stretching to reawaken joints and muscles.
As with everything, not everyone has the same experience that I do in rope. If you love rope bondage I urge you to comment and share how a rope bondage scene unfolds for you and your partner. How do you feel and what reactions do you have?