Does a submissive also have to be a slave?

Full Question: Do you believe a submissive also has to be a slave?

Answer: 

At Submissive Guide, we focus on submission. We use specific definitions to describe the words “submissive,” and “slave.” They are:

submissive – A person who agrees to submit or give up control in a relationship, scene, or activity.

slave – A person who gives up total control to someone with whom they are in an agreed-upon dynamic and/or relationship.

What this means for your question if a submissive is also a slave is a clear no. Slaves can be submissive, though! The line is that slaves surrender everything without conditions to their Dominant partner. A submissive will always have conditions to what they will submit to in their relationship.

Role identities are often a challenge in BDSM because even though there are universally accepted definitions available, people can also apply their own personal definitions to those roles. This is likely a reason why so many questions new people have are definitions of things. 

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