On my own blog, I’ve recently been reviewing various BDSM toy suppliers that I’ve used but I thought it would be interesting to write a guide on how to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of shopping! Who makes the purchasing […]
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys Read More »
Over the years I have had quite a few online names and aliases. Some have stayed with me, some haven’t. Some should never have existed in the first place because they were just *bad* Choosing a scene name is one thing if it is only ever going to be used online, but it takes a
What’s In a Name? Selecting a Scene Name You Can Live With Read More »
It’s one of those questions people always ask, isn’t it? What got you into BDSM? Or into D/s? Some people think it is to do with their nature from birth, others think it is how they are nurtured and what they experience in life. I think perhaps I am somewhere between the middle in my
You Are What You Read: What Got You Into BDSM and D/s? Read More »
I’d commented on a thread recently on the topic of what makes a good dominant here on fetlife and I’ve been thinking about it a little more since then as I have had personal experience of both good and bad doms first hand and from stories and the experiences of friends also. Of course not everyone has the
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I got engaged to my Master, Grimly, in September 2009. The engagement itself was pretty kinky since this took place at a fetish party that occurred whilst we were staying with like minded friends in Canada. Our engagement party ended up with me being dressed up as a schoolgirl, then as a maid, then in
Keeping D/s Alive Through Engagement and Marriage Read More »
My dominant, Grimly, and I are in a long distance relationship of 200 miles and have been since we commenced our relationship in 2005. To be honest, I never really planned on having a long distance relationship it just so happened that the dom I ended up being attracted to was that far away and
Going the Distance – How to Survive a Long Distance Relationship Read More »
How many of you post pictures on the Internet of your BDSM experiences? Or maybe on FetLife or your blog? Sharing photos has been something I have done from the very beginning. For a long time, though, I was uncomfortable showing my face in any fetish pictures since I was partly worried about the risk of being outed and
Showing Face: How Time Has Changed ThisGirl’s Perceptions of Sharing Photos Online Read More »
Like Luna, I’m also getting married to my Dom this year! We have been together seven years in February but it feels so much longer, I think thats a good thing though! When we met I wasn’t planning on it being a romantic relationship, I wasn’t planning on it being a D/s thing either, it
Love, Honour and Obey: thisgirl’s Getting Married! Read More »
After my last post on value which was about ownership and the transaction where my Master ‘bought’ me, someone emailed me to enquire about further ways ownership can be demonstrated and felt by the two people concerned. It really is a very personal thing. What means ownership to me might not be the same as what it
Collars and More: Symbols of Ownership in a D/s Relationship Read More »
One of my earliest fantasies, or dreams actually, was the idea of being owned by someone and I envisaged the whole notion of belonging to someone much more simple and much more ‘me’ than the concept of being obedient or submissive as such. I wanted to belong more than I wanted to obey. I am
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I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after
The Female of the Species: Bisexuality and Identifying as Submissive Read More »
There is a 21 year age difference between myself and my Master. I am 30 and he is 51. When we met I hadn’t expected we would end up where we are now, which is still together, engaged and very happy! If I had thought he would be my life partner as well as a
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