Well, there’s not really an App for service. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were? However, there are a lot of Apps out there that can make running your household (and your Master!) a lot easier! I just recently discovered the world of Apps. My Master has been a Mac guy for a while now, […]
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This is an entry into A Day in the Life series. Than you nan{SL}! My Master moved to my farm in September. Before that, my typical day was going to work, playing with my dog, and texting and emailing my Master all the day long. I would plan some weekend lifestyles events with Him, get
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How do you maintain a 24/7 D/s relationship and still live in the real world? This is my new challenge as my Master moved in with me late this summer. Rituals: My original thought was to maintain rituals. When I came home, I wanted to go up to my Master in the house and kneel.
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A slave I admire wrote a blog on how she felt she had changed since she met her Master. She wanted to go back to the more outgoing, social being she had been before she met Him. After all, she pointed out, this was what had attracted Him to her in the first place. This
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Parties are a ‘rite of passage’ for some in the BDSM community. How do you find one? What can you expect? And most importantly (for me) what on earth can you wear? Where do you find a party? The most popular place now is the event listings on FetLife. You can browse through ‘events near
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How often have you dressed in a sexy corset or other fetishwear, only to experience ‘spillage’ when you bend over to serve your Master a drink? Fun though that might be for your Master, it might be a bit embarrassing for you. An elegant way around this problem is the ‘Bunny Dip’. This is a
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I think it was at least 3 years into my relationship with my Master before I had to cook for Him. I was terrified at the thought. When I visit Master, He barbecues great steaks or ribs – all meat and potatoes meals. One serving of steak was as much meat as I would eat
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As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dominant is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dominant. If you are playing with a new Dominant and aren’t asked this question, my advice is
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This is a continuing discussion about Munches. If you’d like to read the first post, Attending a Munch now. Once you find a munch in your area, you may want to contact the hosts in advance and let them know you are coming. This way they can keep an eye out for you at the door,
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“Go to a munch!” That’s advice that you will often hear when you start exploring the BDSM lifestyle. But what is a munch? What can you expect from the people there? And what should you do to attend? Why should you attend a munch? This is often the first step in exploring the BDSM lifestyle
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BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a
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The idea of hypnotism always frightened me a little. I never thought it was entertaining to watch someone go up on stage and act like a chicken or in some other humiliating way. My Master, however, was intrigued by the idea of using hypnotism in our M/s relationship. I have always felt somewhat self-conscious with
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In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a political
A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why Read More »
I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my
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u that you deserve punishment for a wide variety of real and imagined offenses. They do not use appropriate levels of discipline, so the punishment does not fit the crime. It is never part of a consensual power exchange, and offenses are not forgiven after the discipline. There is a constant reminder of your ‘failure’.
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Part 1: Information Please! If you’re a new submissive this lifestyle may seem overwhelming at first. A submissive I know terms it ‘the new submissive smell’. Dom/mes sense ‘new blood’, and swarm like piranhas to interact with, play with or train the new submissive in the group. Dom/mes may contact you online or meet you
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Hunting is a huge part of my Master’s life. As His submissive I could either consider that side of Him ‘vanilla’, or I could learn more about it and develop skills to become His ‘hunt slut’. ‘Hunt slut’ sounded fun, and it would give me a chance to spend more time with my Master! With
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Has your Dom/me ever tied you in a position where if you move one way this part of your body gets stressed or pulled, and if you move another way, that part of your body gets tugged or pinched? If so, then you have experienced predicament bondage! Predicament bondage can be simple or complex and playful or painful. It
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Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be challenging to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy workday. A submissive can use rituals to help them achieve the right mind-space, leaving the outside world behind and regaining the
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