Submissive Positions are talked about all over like everyone is supposed to be doing them or something. Not every relationship is set up to provide that level of protocol and you should never expect a relationship to automatically have that. If you are interested in positions, ask your partner or prospective partner if they’d be […]
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When you enter the local BDSM community one of the events you may be exposed to is a play party. A play party is an essentially a party where BDSM play can occur. Groups hold parties as a way to learn and educate on safe play methods, chat about topics and generally hang around. Parties
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Want to be a better submissive? Start with these 10 simple tips to improve your submission and service in your D/s dynamic. Practical, easy-to-follow advice for all levels!
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Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What
If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don’t rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not
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One of the first questions a new submissive asks themselves is are they normal for desiring the things they do. This could be kinky sex, humiliation or service. Anything that appears to fall outside the vanilla umbrella can cause a novice to question if they are normal. This, in fact, is normal. Everyone questions themselves
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Submissives all around will identify with one or more of these terms: discipline, obedience, structure, and rules. I’m a submissive that needs structure. With structure can come rules, and that’s how my submission best functions in my dynamic with KnyghtMare. I serve him by actively following the rules that govern the structure of my day.
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The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training
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There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM, newbies are sometimes recommended to pick up a mentor but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started, there were good people to be around and not-so-great people that left
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Explore the emotional side of sub drop, why it can be more intense in committed BDSM relationships, and how to recover. Understand the unique challenges beyond the physical aspects of sub drop.
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Romance gets lost in the rush of work, family, kids, and obligations but a romantic bath is not only relaxing, it can create intimacy between you and your partner. In Ancient Rome and Egypt, bathing in scented oils was a prelude to lovemaking. Giving a bath to someone else is not only romantic but a
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Sometimes you just need that extra bit of help out of your day or want to have all the tips and tricks on a certain activity. Well, I have pulled together some of the best websites out there that will help you get through your difficult day in a breeze. 1. TipNut.com – This site has all
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On FetLife quite awhile back now, a slave posted her version of a rosary with her Master as the focus. As with any rosary or prayer beads, it is used in meditation and presents a spirituality in service that can be adopted and adapted to fit your relationship. I’ve always had a curiosity with religious artifacts and items used
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A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it. It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you. What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? — Submissive
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I read on an online forum recently about the stigma that a Master or Dom should be manly or masculine. So many replied that they agreed and had found a Dominant that was physically stronger than they were. I was not in agreement and questioned why they idea of masculinity was associated with Dominance. No
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Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to focus
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Looking for your partner is challenging, no doubt about it. You’ve probably done the bar scene, the alternative adult dating sites, and maybe a few of the vanilla ones too. No matter where you look you find men or women that just aren’t your type. I’m here to say that it is possible to find
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The third question I received for March Question Month is: My owner frequently forgets his own deadlines, rules, etc, be them for me or for his own things. how do I help him without being a nag? I have tried setting up calendars, but he forgets to look at them. This can be a challenge,
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The second question I received for March question month came to me in my email. I’m a strong person, but something in me was missing…until I admitted what I really am. I’m engaged, I love my boyfriend very much, but I decided to open my heart to him and he’s really doing his best to
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My first question for March Question Month is about making the mental switch from work to home life. I know from experience that this is a very difficult time for both the Dominant and the submissive. You could have had an intense day at work, or the submissive is in a position of power at
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