This is a guest post by Andrew. How can you find happiness when your owner controls all the money in your relationship? I know this is going to sound corny but—money can’t buy happiness. As long as he or she isn’t driving the two of you into financial ruin by gambling, drinking, etc., then try […]
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This is a guest post by moonlight. No matter how you choose to go about it, kinky or vanilla, we want to keep our fun-loving activities away from our children. However, by their very nature, children are curious little people who can have quite the sneaky side and don’t like missing what everyone is up
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This is a guest post by moonlight. Many of us love our kinky toys and the collection just keeps growing the longer you are in the community. Floggers, canes, crops, clothespins, candles, you name it. If you look around my house, those aren’t the toys you will see – it looks more like an explosion
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This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief
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This is a guest post from Slave Dove. I am unsure where it originated, but am sharing it here from a now defunct website. These dinners are what many would view as a “scene” but they are not play parties. No one is available for physical “use” it is formal Old Guard Domination and submission at
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This is a guest post by Erika McLean. My kids get up at just about 6 am like clockwork every day. They tend to wander out in the middle of the night into the living room because they’ve had a nightmare. Anyone who has kids is going to recognize this as how your own life works. Anyone who
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This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me… who doesn’t stop when I say stop… who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I
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This is a guest post by kaya of Under His Hand. I tend to think of my particular brand of masochism like a chronic illness. Like, say, the diabeetus. (Some) people who have diabetes have to stab themselves with needles regularly. They have to take shots and watch their diet, and they do these things,
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This is a guest post by Slave Kelly. Paralysis of analysis became a well-known phrase when used by Martin Luther King, Jr., during the Civil Rights Movement. However, this human phenomenon has been documented for centuries. Paralysis of analysis occurs when one over-thinks an issue, or situation, to the point where the ability to act
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This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen on this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He
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This is a guest post by Red Vinyl Kitty. You can read about her life as a slave kitty at Sub Mission. I was approached by LunaKM a few months ago to write a guest post for her blog. I do not usually do guest posts, but she wanted me to write one about my new
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This is a guest post by Shahjahani. She is a personal friend of mine and a fantastic educator. I originally heard of these precepts when speaking of death and dying. I elaborated on them then to help myself understand my place in the death and dying process. I shared my thoughts back then with those that
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This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7
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This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I
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This is a guest post by tlbsab. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake, but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is huge. In the Vanilla world, we call it gun-shy
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This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab! First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to offend anyone and is meant for information only. Religion is the basis of our relationship and is the reason that our lifestyle works for our family. I
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This is part of the A Day in the Life Series. Thanks DarlingDoll! I am a brat. I am a mouthy loud-mouthed impatient bent kinky little brat who has gone through phase after phase to amuse myself with one constant. My Daddy. Together he and I have shared tattoos, shaved heads, pink Mohawk’s, and blue
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This is a guest post by Autumn Raine Skye for the Day in the Life Series. I’m a submissive, and I also consider myself a slave. My Master, who is also my husband, had not heard of any aspect of BDSM until I brought it up to him. So we are fairly new to all
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This is a guest post by Pam for the Day in the Life Series. As a new submissive, I am constantly seeking out new information. Scouring the internet has almost become an addiction. With each new article, I read I can find others to dispute it. I have come to realize the journey for me
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straightforward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader.
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