This is a paid advertorial for Arousr.com. Living off of ramen noodles and waiting tables to (barely) afford rent was the norm for my college experience. Although if you had told me at the time that I could make double what I was earning in a fraction of the time, I would not have believed you. […]
Who says being on the bottom doesn’t pay? I make $45,000 a year sexting as a sub. Read More »
Explore a sample consensual ‘slavery’ contract for BDSM relationships. Learn how these non-binding agreements can help communicate boundaries and establish power dynamics in D/s or M/s relationships.
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Training Collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive. For information regarding the first collar please refer to my article called the Collar of Consideration. The ‘Training’ collar
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. For the purposes of this article I will assume that the submissive is ‘new’ to the lifestyle and that the Dominant directing them has limited or no experience with this aspect of BDSM.
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The end of a D/s relationship can be devastating for both Dominants and submissives. This article explores how release affects each side, the role of aftercare even post-relationship, and healthy ways to process grief, guilt, and loss while beginning the journey of healing.
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Subspace is a common but often misunderstood experience in BDSM and power exchange. This article defines subspace, explains how and why it occurs, and explores its emotional and physical effects, helping submissives better understand their experiences while emphasizing safety, communication, and aftercare.
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Healthy dominance develops with trust, communication, and time. This article explores the dangers of rushing power exchange, examining why some Dominants push for speed and how that urgency can become a red flag, helping submissives recognize pressure, protect themselves, and prioritize safety and discernment.
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Jealousy is a common and complex emotion in mono/poly relationships. This article explores why jealousy arises in mixed relationship structures and how partners can address it through communication, reassurance, boundaries, and emotional responsibility, helping maintain connection and trust without shame or minimization.
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Service dynamics can be deeply fulfilling, but they can also lead to overwhelm if boundaries aren’t respected. This article explores how submissives can recognize burnout, manage expectations, and care for themselves while serving, emphasizing balance, communication, and sustainability as essential parts of long-term service submission.
How to Keep Yourself From Being Overwhelmed in a Service Dynamic Read More »
Wearing butt plugs for longer periods can be part of comfort building, pleasure exploration, or kink training when approached safely. This article explores gradual progression, body awareness, hygiene, and consent-focused practices to help readers increase wear time responsibly while prioritizing comfort, health, and communication.
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Many submissives struggle with the idea of being a “good” submissive and measuring up to unspoken standards. This article explores the mythology surrounding the ideal submissive, challenging perfectionism and encouraging readers to redefine submission in ways that are authentic, intentional, and grounded in healthy self-awareness.
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Long-distance BDSM relationships require intentional connection, communication, and emotional presence. This article explores the slow, evolving dance of maintaining intimacy and power exchange across distance, offering insight into trust-building, emotional closeness, and the unique rhythms that develop when partners can’t be physically together.
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This guest article by Mistress Steel explores 24/7 D/s relationships through the lens of tradition, history, trust, and long-term commitment. Though some ideas may feel dated, it offers a valuable snapshot of earlier BDSM thought and invites readers to reflect on how knowledge and expectations have evolved.
Grappling with Tradition and History to Define 24/7 Long Term D/s Relationships Read More »
Learning your limits is an important part of every BDSM journey. Through a personal story, this article explores how limits are discovered, challenged, and better understood over time, encouraging readers to approach exploration with curiosity, consent, honest communication, and respect for their own physical and emotional boundaries.
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Online BDSM relationships can be deeply meaningful, but they also come with unique challenges. This article explores the realities of building trust, intimacy, and communication through online and long-distance connections, helping readers develop realistic expectations while nurturing relationships that begin or exist primarily in digital spaces.
Cyber Realities: Online and Long Distance Relationship Thoughts Read More »
Submission often happens in quiet, everyday moments rather than dramatic scenes. This narrative follows a day in the life of a submissive, illustrating how service, communication, intention, and devotion can become part of daily routines while offering readers a realistic glimpse into a lived D/s dynamic.
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What exactly is a fetish, and how is it different from a kink? This article explains the meaning of fetish, explores common misconceptions, and helps readers understand how fetishes fit within human sexuality and BDSM, encouraging curiosity, respect, and informed discussion without shame or judgment.
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another. Many aspects of BDSM are similar to addictions in how they play out
Submissive Frenzies: When You Want It All RIGHT NOW! Read More »
This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s
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