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The Transformative Benefits of Journaling for Submissives
As submissives, we constantly learn and explore ourselves and the activities that bring us closer to our inner peace. We question our thoughts, ask deep questions, and look for answers. It’s part of what makes us so amazing, right? We are fueled by the passion to submit and serve. While exploring desires, setting boundaries, and deepening connections with our Dominants, getting lost in the whirlwind of emotions, needs, and expectations is easy. This flood of emotions is where journaling comes in – a powerful tool that can help you untangle your thoughts, process your emotions, and cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationships. You’ve probably heard that communication is one of the key elements that make a D/s relationship strong. Without good communication, your relationship is destined to have issues. While talking face-to-face may be the best way
Drowning in Exhaustion: Navigating Submissive Burnout
Imagine being submerged underwater, the pressure building in your ears, the air squeezing out of your lungs, and the darkness closing around you. It’s a terrifying sensation that can leave you feeling helpless and desperate for a lifeline. The experience of submissive burnout is similar – you feel like you’re drowning in expectations, responsibilities, or pressures from others. These demands can be crushing, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to escape. Being lost or disconnected can be just as disorienting as being underwater. In this article, we’ll dive into the world of submissive burnout, understanding how to recognize the signs of burnout, establish boundaries, prioritize self-care, and seek support. You’ll also learn how to reevaluate your dynamics, maintain a healthy balance, and avoid burnout in the long run. Understanding Submissive Burnout Submissive burnout is a state of emotional,
From Patience to Kindness: The Virtuous Path of Submission
Exploring new perspectives within the intimate world of BDSM dynamics can lead to a richer and more fulfilling experience. Today, I propose we embark on a unique journey that intertwines submission with the concept of the Seven Heavenly Virtues. We’ll delve into the history of these virtues, uncovering their origins and significance, and then consider how they can be applied to your submissive journey. Get ready to reveal the idea of virtue-based submission – a pathway that promises profound self-discovery and unbridled joy. The Origin of the 7 Heavenly Virtues To understand the virtues, we must travel back through history, where these principles are rooted. The 5th-century writer Prudentius offered one of the first iterations of the seven heavenly virtues in his poem Psychomachia (“The Contest of the Soul”). In 590 CE, Pope Gregory I revised the list of deadly
The Wild Side of BDSM: How to Safely Incorporate Outdoor Play into Your Kink
Exploring BDSM can be an exciting and fulfilling way to expand your sexual horizons, and outdoor BDSM play can provide a unique and exhilarating experience for those interested in pushing their boundaries beyond the confines of a traditional indoor setting. However, engaging in BDSM activities in the great outdoors also comes with its own set
Anal Training 101: From Hesitation to Penetration
If the idea of putting something in your butt or enjoying anal sex makes you hesitate, you aren’t alone. Even though anal sex has made huge steps toward acceptance, it remains an underrated, almost taboo activity. Exploring anal training is often filled with discomfort, both mental and physical, but despite what porn or movies would
How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes
Rituals, Rules and Protocol5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic A Slave Uniform – What’s It Look Like? Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the BedroomWhether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for
Learn to Accept Your Limitations: A Personal Lesson on Teamwork In The Dynamic
As a slave, I am responsible for certain activities within the house. I cook, clean, and am otherwise generally responsible for maintaining the household in ways that do not require professional repair. So, while I’m not expected to perform plumbing or electrical work, I might be required to repaint walls or maintain the garden. One
