This category provides practical advice and techniques for enhancing submission, from developing your skills to obedience and service to maintaining discipline and self-care.
Full Question: Everything is distracting. What can I do to help me focus on my submission and scene time? Answer: Distractions can be a challenge, but with some mindful strategies, you can improve your concentration and presence. Here’s some advice to help you stay centered and connected no matter what’s going on around you: Mind […]
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Full Question: Good resources on begging examples? Feel like I’ve gone through many and they weren’t great. Answer: Great question! Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario, for others, it’s a part of everyday interactions with their Dominant partners that emphasize humility. It’s
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Full Question: How do you take care of yourself during sub drop when your dominant is either too busy with other things to be able to help you or experiencing dom drop themselves? Answer: I can empathize! Managing sub drop on your own can be done and I recommend all submissives have a sub drop
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Want to spice up your kinky playtime? Learn how to use erotic begging to intensify your scenes, add elements of humiliation, and enhance your BDSM dynamics with your partner.
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Full Question: How to get back on track after a sub drop? Answer: Drop is rough on a lot of people. Let me help you with tips and strategies to recover from the experience of sub drop, a feeling of emotional and physical exhaustion that can occur after intense submission. Sub drop is a normal
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Full Question: Master and I both work outside the home. How does one keep the mindset of a slave while working and keep communication open? Answer: You may not like this answer, but you can’t keep it continuously. Have you ever seen a cartoon where a person is trying to balance a bunch of different
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Full Question: It’s hard for me to let go and orgasm when I’m with him because he makes me nervous. But he makes me nervous in a good way! Do you have any advice for this? Answer: Feeling overwhelmingly nervous during sex will impact your ability to relax and let go. A million different factors
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Full Question: How do I become more confident with dirty talk? Answer: Taking the first steps toward talking dirty isn’t an easy process. You have to deal with embarrassment, discomfort, and the fear that your partner will just laugh at you. It takes practice and repetition to learn to talk dirty when you aren’t confident
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Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities. What are Rituals? Rituals used in
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My Master and I had the pleasure of attending a Zoom forum recently about kink and related topics. It was a group meeting in which people of all backgrounds—kinky or not—could ask questions and offer insights about the topics that get posted. It was not quite a munch, not quite a workshop, but fun, very
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Service-oriented people come from all walks of life and have various skills and knowledge to make them the partners that many crave. When you are a service submissive, demonstrating that you have a few key skills mastered can help strengthen the service dynamic. Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you
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The “perpetual student” mindset is one that instills the truth that there is always more to learn. It teaches us that we can still make improvements upon ourselves with the information we gather and the knowledge we gain and strive to integrate. It helps us keep open minds as we expand our understanding to be
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Being a submissive in a D/s dynamic can give you many opportunities to explore new things. In my power exchange relationship, that new opportunity was non-sexual service. Our first few experiments were clumsy and crude. Still, we’ve grown to enjoy the moments of service that I provide. It’s changed and deepened our dynamic over time.
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In part 2 of the Anticipatory Service series, “Making Mistakes in Anticipatory Service” I recommend finding one area of your dominant’s life to enhance with anticipatory service when just starting out with it in your dynamic. This rule of singular focus creates a smoother transition. In essence, anticipatory service is about being able to see
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When I was younger, my parents used to frequent an establishment where everyone knew our family. My parents knew every person on staff by name, from the manager to the janitor. They always hugged the dining room manager with two arms, and the bartender was a trusted friend who had all of their favorite cocktails
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Now that we’ve covered the list of supplies and talked about what might be lovely additions to the shave service itself, it’s time to take you through the steps of how to give a relaxing sensual shave service that will have your Dominant craving it every single time they need a shave. Since I do not have experience
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When you want to make a shave the special experience it can be, you need to start with a basic supply list. As you get more experienced and if you want a more in-depth service you can add a few more items to your repertoire. If you missed the first part of this series, The Ultimate
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One of the more intimate things you can do for your Dominant partner is to help care for their body in some way. Personal grooming service is pretty popular for submissives who are into service because it allows you to get up close and personal with your Dominant. If your Dominant has facial hair, a
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The other day in a submissives only group that I’m in on Facebook, the topic of domestic service came up. The member was new to the lifestyle and had questions about resources specifically for domestic service and asked if there was anyone out there who could help point her in the right direction. Being the
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I think that many of us would agree that while playtime is not the most important aspect of our relationships, it plays a fairly vital role in our happiness in those relationships. It is, after all, one of the things that drive us to realize that mainstream relationships just don’t fit right for us, the
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