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Any ideas for Anticipatory Service (I’d like to do more without their asking me)?

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Question: I want to do more for my Dom in terms of serving without him asking me. Do you have any ideas? Answer: That’s a wonderful instinct, and it speaks volumes about your desire to deepen your submission and connection. Serving without being asked is often called anticipatory service—and it’s all about tuning into your […]

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What can I do to help me focus on my submission and scene time?

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Full Question: Everything is distracting. What can I do to help me focus on my submission and scene time? Answer:  Distractions can be a challenge, but with some mindful strategies, you can improve your concentration and presence. Here’s some advice to help you stay centered and connected no matter what’s going on around you: Mind

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Do you have any good begging examples? I need help.

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Full Question: Good resources on begging examples? Feel like I’ve gone through many and they weren’t great. Answer:  Great question! Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario, for others, it’s a part of everyday interactions with their Dominant partners that emphasize humility. It’s

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How do you take care of yourself during sub drop when your Dom isn’t available?

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Full Question: How do you take care of yourself during sub drop when your dominant is either too busy with other things to be able to help you or experiencing dom drop themselves? Answer:  I can empathize! Managing sub drop on your own can be done and I recommend all submissives have a sub drop

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The Key Traits of a Service Submissive – They Can Be Learned!

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Service-oriented people come from all walks of life and have various skills and knowledge to make them the partners that many crave. When you are a service submissive, demonstrating that you have a few key skills mastered can help strengthen the service dynamic. Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you

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Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic

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Being a submissive in a D/s dynamic can give you many opportunities to explore new things. In my power exchange relationship, that new opportunity was non-sexual service. Our first few experiments were clumsy and crude. Still, we’ve grown to enjoy the moments of service that I provide. It’s changed and deepened our dynamic over time.

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My First Anticipatory Service and 3 Lessons It Taught Me

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In part 2 of the Anticipatory Service series, “Making Mistakes in Anticipatory Service” I recommend finding one area of your dominant’s life to enhance with anticipatory service when just starting out with it in your dynamic. This rule of singular focus creates a smoother transition. In essence, anticipatory service is about being able to see

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Exploring Service Motivations: How a Mocktail Made Me Service-Oriented

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When I was younger, my parents frequented an establishment where everyone knew our family. My parents knew every person on staff by name, from the manager to the janitor. They always hugged the dining room manager, and the bartender was a trusted friend who had all of their favorite cocktails committed to memory. I wasn’t

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Step By Step How-To for the Perfect Hot Towel Shave Experience

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Now that we’ve covered the list of supplies and talked about what might be lovely additions to the shave service itself, it’s time to take you through the steps of how to give a relaxing sensual shave service that will have your Dominant craving it every single time they need a shave. Since I do not have experience

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