Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, My Dominant and I have recently reconnected and are feeling out a new, healthier format for our relationship. However, he confessed to being unfaithful to me when we were together before (out of a fear of intimacy, which he is working on). I […]
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For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Training Collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive. For information regarding the first collar please refer to my article called the Collar of Consideration. The ‘Training’ collar
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A few months ago, there was a thread started on Fetlife about ethical BDSM and it really caught my attention so I had to check it out. At this time there were only a handful of comments and every one of these comments had said something pertaining to the dominant being responsible for the relationship
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Online submission was and still is a very popular choice for many people, especially the novice submissive and the curious outsider. But it also attracts the not so honest people, the predators and those looking for the weak and vulnerable for their own selfish needs. And that’s why, if you wish to be an online
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Thank you Mrs. Darling for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, I’m hoping you can offer some advice to a newbie. I’ve met a Dom online, we had a first date (just lunch) and will be meeting again shortly to negotiate a contract. I have never ever done this before. I’m overweight and over
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle
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Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs (long distance relationships), which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how to look after your dom long distance? Sincerely, Long
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Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he is thrilled. But he tells me I need to research in order
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Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question! I am not sure if this topic has been covered before, but I couldn’t find much info on it. I was hoping you could share some advice on balancing a d/s relationship and family.To be more specific, I’d like to know how to handle instances such as
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As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s
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Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I know it’s still the beginning of January, but we all know how fast time flies and before we know it, February will be here and that’s when the clock really starts ticking. So, it’s never too early to plan ahead (says the girl who was finished with
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Rituals aren’t just for 24/7 dynamics—they can enrich any D/s relationship. Explore five practical ways rituals enhance submission, deepen intimacy, and strengthen your connection with your Dominant. This guide helps you integrate meaningful practices into your life, whether you’re long-distance, online, or living together.
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Opening a relationship when it’s already unstable can be risky. This article explores the challenges of balancing BDSM needs, fear, and relationship repair. Discover insights for partners navigating uncertainty, and resources to better understand power exchange while protecting the foundation of your primary relationship.
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Curious about polyamory or exploring ethical non-monogamy? This post compiles trusted polyamory resources from across the web—articles, books, and online communities—to help you understand, communicate, and grow in multi-partner relationships. A great starting point for learning how polyamory works in real, healthy, and ethical ways.
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The end of a D/s relationship can be devastating for both Dominants and submissives. This article explores how release affects each side, the role of aftercare even post-relationship, and healthy ways to process grief, guilt, and loss while beginning the journey of healing.
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Transitioning from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy is like starting a new career after years in one field—it takes unlearning, growth, and patience. This article explores how to navigate the shift, manage expectations, and embrace new dynamics while honoring both your past and your future in love.
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Grief touches every relationship, including D/s. When a Dominant suffers loss, submissives may wonder how to help while honoring their role. This article shares personal experience and practical lessons on supporting a grieving partner with compassion, patience, and strength—reminding us that D/s dynamics adapt, but love and care remain constant.
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Looking for a Dominant partner but not sure where to start? This post gathers helpful resources and practical advice for finding compatible Dominants online and in real life. Learn how to approach D/s dating with confidence, recognize red flags, and build connections rooted in trust and authenticity.
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Exploring online submission can be exciting—but also confusing without clear guidance. This article addresses what to do when your “Dom” gives no direction, how to spot red flags, and why communication and boundaries matter. Learn how to protect yourself while enjoying an online D/s relationship safely and with confidence.
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