The standard American “Disney” propaganda tells us in no uncertain terms that we are to hold our love and our bodies back until we meet “the one” with whom we will discover that magical connection. It will last forever and ever, and there will be happy endings all around. A lot of us, men and […]
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I know I say I use FetLife for a lot of my ideas on things to write about, and it’s true. There are many novices on there and the multitude of questions and topics that come up help me generate a lot of thoughts that I can put into words, opinions and hopefully helpful advice
There Is No Such Thing as Vanilla Life When You Are 24/7 Read More »
I’ve not experienced a D/s breakup and I hope I will never have to, but I have experienced heartache and divorce so I’m drawing my experience of those to write this post. I do hope that it will help those of you going through the painful time from the realization of the end and through
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Sometimes it happens that there is more than one D/s or M/s family under one roof. Many wonder how this could work out. Sometimes this happens for financial reasons; while for others it happens simply because it can work and be fun. If your family is planning on moving in with another lifestyle family there
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A friend asked me the other day what was necessary in a D/s or TPE relationship in order to make it fulfilling for me. It was quite an interesting question and one I’d like to answer here. First things first; a TPE or Total Power Exchange is where the submissive has surrendered all control to
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As submissives we tend to need to be reminded what we are doing to improve our lives and to give credit for success and progress no matter how small we may perceive it. This new project will help correct that I hope. The following questions are to be used as prompts for you to think
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Like Luna, I’m also getting married to my Dom this year! We have been together seven years in February but it feels so much longer, I think thats a good thing though! When we met I wasn’t planning on it being a romantic relationship, I wasn’t planning on it being a D/s thing either, it
Love, Honour and Obey: thisgirl’s Getting Married! Read More »
Age or experience, particularly of the Dominant seems to always been in question no matter where you are. You hear it in forums, at munches and casual gatherings. So much of what we do hinges on that little bit of information. For many submissives that I’m acquainted with, there is no question that experience is important to
Age or Experience: What’s More Important in a Dominant? Read More »
The progress of a serious relationship leads to moving in with the other. Whether in a more traditional format after marriage or a modern stand of whenever the relationship is serious enough for that commitment, deciding to do just that takes preparedness. I want to talk about how to prepare yourself and your home for
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This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. “Is It True That Female Dominants Are More About Mental Than Physical Dominance?” This question intrigued me. It’s one of several Luna passed along to me, but I don’t know
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Essentially I think we all believe that Dominant/submissive is an exchange of power but when you talk about it with others there happens to be two schools of thought on it. It can really get confusing because each side believes they are right. I’d like to present to you the two ideas and let you
Who Really Has the Power in a D/s Relationship? Read More »
There is an art to maintaining any relationship but a long distance one requires a bit more work because you rarely, if ever, see each other in the flesh. LDRs, as they are often called, can drain the parties involved and cause much stress to see flourish. They aren’t impossible to have, but quite difficult
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After my last post on value which was about ownership and the transaction where my Master ‘bought’ me, someone emailed me to enquire about further ways ownership can be demonstrated and felt by the two people concerned. It really is a very personal thing. What means ownership to me might not be the same as what it
Collars and More: Symbols of Ownership in a D/s Relationship Read More »
Every time we have to face our family as a kink couple, Master and I have had to tone it down and disguise how we normally live our lives. Our family does not know how we live and they really don’t have any business knowing. I’m not going to ask my father what he does
Season’s Beatings: Navigating Holidays Around Your Family as a Kinky Couple Read More »
This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant in the Submissive Guide chatroom. Since this is my first time writing in this venue, allow me to introduce myself briefly. I go by fuzzyP at the Submissive Guide and on other sites. In a
What Do Female Dominants Desire in a Male Submissive? Read More »
This is a guest post by Sephani. She contacted me via email with an interest in writing a post and here it is! Long-distance relationships (LDR) of any sort have always had negative press reviews and I’m sure all of us have heard the, “they never work” response at some point in time. Lifestyle LDR
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This is a guest post by Aria. She has written for Submissive Guide in the past, you can check out her post on Two Dominants here . Today she brings a common Poly Relationship question – jealousy to light. Yes! Almost all of us have felt jealousy at one time or another. The best thing
If I feel Jealousy, can I still be Poly? Read More »
This is a guest post by SkylerPet. She has written a Pet Play Primer on this site and answered a question I sent her from a reader about what a human pet is. Pet play is something I’ve spoken of before and enjoy engaging in myself. For many though, they’d like to be pets, just not animals.
A Human Pet – Exploring Pet Play and Owner/pet Relationships Read More »
Contracts are a sticky subject in discussions. I’ve briefly covered it before in this article. The opinions are all over the place as far as their value or use as a tool for relationships. I can understand why they are a common thread in forums all over the place. A contract is a physical document outlining the
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Last February was a difficult month for me. Like many in this failing economy, I found myself without a job. I was stressed and frustrated and knew that it would be very difficult to find another job when the competition was over 7% of the state’s workforce. Master wasn’t going to let me stay frustrated
