Not too long ago, my pup and I were faced with something that rears its ugly head to everyone-lifestyle or not. The dreaded “outside force.” What is this intruder you may ask? Well, it is anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing; it is never welcome and always has to be handled […]
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Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done. It is not something one does lightly and shouldn’t be something someone does without thought and consideration to all the factors involved. It is something that I have recently had to do –
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Why do Dominants insist on being called Sir? That was a question posed not that long ago in an online community that I belong to. They wanted to know why so many insist on being called Sir. Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol?
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If you ask someone what the foundation of any relationship is they are likely to say one of three things. They are likely to say communication, compromise, and trust. Today I’m going to talk about trust. The word is thrown around a lot but many submissives I talk to have issues with trust and how
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What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some, it is a new beginning of a journey. For others, it is a step in the training process. It all depends on the Dominant you are with. For every Dominant has a different way of doing things.
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Let’s face it. Not everyone out there is graced with excellent health, some of us are even chronically ill. Myself, I face being on dialysis along with Lupus and Fibro. I am in a ton of pain a good deal of the time and have 3 wonderful children, 2 with special needs that require that
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When I first started considering making the jump from being a strictly online submissive to a real life submissive, I really couldn’t find much information written about it. I didn’t let that discourage me because I was ready and determined to move forward. I could find information about being a 24/7 slave but that’s not
I am a high maintenance submissive. I’m well aware of the work that my Master has to constantly do to keep me happy and to keep him well-pleased. I’m not ashamed of it because that is who I always have been and he loves me for it. He even encourages some of it. Much of
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The other day and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel
Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive? Read More »
This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7
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Some friends of mine had mentioned that they were unable to find “their One.” Now, some of these friends are tops; some are bottoms. But all indicated their lack of ability to meet a D/s partner that fit them well. Read More: 7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant As I mulled over the
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You Read More »
Throughout history, people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, a ceremony that comes from other
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This is a guest post by tlbsab. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake, but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is huge. In the Vanilla world, we call it gun-shy
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Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the marriage. I know I was raised
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Because of the content of this post, I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor
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I was once an online submissive. I know a bit about the language and grammar rules that reside there. They are creative and interesting and serve their purpose online. When you bring them into real life they get more annoying, but in some relationships and dynamics, they still serve their purpose. What language adjustments am
As a parent of 2 children and the active property of my Owner and Husband, I thought perhaps it was time to begin writing some about the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and experiences of the parent slave. I was surprised when I first began writing about this topic that no one
…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission Read More »
As always the views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. I write about what I know and what I know is me and my journey. As the old saying goes it’s not over until the fat lady sings. In this instance the fat lady would be me, a few
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There are birthdays and anniversaries, holidays and special occasions of all sorts and when a submissive wants to shower their Dominant with gifts it can be a challenge on what to get them. If you are like me, you don’t have your own money and any that you ask for you have to quantify with
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Rarely have I heard of an end of a relationship being good, civil yes, but good? Yet I have heard on numerous occasions that relationship ends can be bad and others very bad. What makes some of these horrible is the immaturity of the people involved and what that causes them to do. I have
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