Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare and I got married one of […]
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question Read More »
Trust is a big factor in all relationships. I would even go as far to say that trust is an even bigger factor in D/s and M/s relationships than most others, but I could be wrong. How do you know when you really trust someone? I know a lot of people out there say they
Just How Much Trust Do YOU Have? Read More »
What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Some examples of common rituals are greeting rituals where the submissive meets the dominant
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol Read More »
Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t use to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still isn’t. Personally, I am not a very organized person and
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control Read More »
When it comes to the idea of topping from the bottom, which I’ve covered several times on the site already, the most common idea that gets bantered about is if asking and requesting something is topping from the bottom. Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that
Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below Read More »
It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins. What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and all of this isn’t new to
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship Read More »
If you had asked me six months ago if I was into poly relationships I’d probably say no. KnyghtMare and I are happily monogamous and have been so for 8 years. He’s had play partners, but never with any sex so I still considered us monogamous even if the real definition was something along the
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time Read More »
Consider for a moment that there is a Dominant that you’ve had your eye on for awhile but you think that s/he may not even know you exist. Do you just wait and hope that they will discover you or do you get the nerve to talk to them? Several of the submissives I’ve talked
How to Approach a Dominant You Are Interested In Read More »
We all put a huge amount of thought into our contacts -or we should. But there are often times that things arise and we have no way of predicting them. I recently shared another post about “Outside Forces.” In that post, I talked about steps that may be taken when an outside force storms it
Points to Negotiate in Your D/s Contact That May Not Have Ever Occurred to You Read More »
Not too long ago, my pup and I were faced with something that rears its ugly head to everyone-lifestyle or not. The dreaded “outside force.” What is this intruder you may ask? Well, it is anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing; it is never welcome and always has to be handled
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Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done. It is not something one does lightly and shouldn’t be something someone does without thought and consideration to all the factors involved. It is something that I have recently had to do –
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Why do Dominants insist on being called Sir? That was a question posed not that long ago in an online community that I belong to. They wanted to know why so many insist on being called Sir. Was it a matter of respect the Dominant thought they had earned? Was it a matter of protocol?
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If you ask someone what the foundation of any relationship is they are likely to say one of three things. They are likely to say communication, compromise, and trust. Today I’m going to talk about trust. The word is thrown around a lot but many submissives I talk to have issues with trust and how
Trust is a Five Letter Word Read More »
What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some, it is a new beginning of a journey. For others, it is a step in the training process. It all depends on the Dominant you are with. For every Dominant has a different way of doing things.
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Let’s face it. Not everyone out there is graced with excellent health, some of us are even chronically ill. Myself, I face being on dialysis along with Lupus and Fibro. I am in a ton of pain a good deal of the time and have 3 wonderful children, 2 with special needs that require that
When Mommy/slave is Ill… Read More »
When I first started considering making the jump from being a strictly online submissive to a real life submissive, I really couldn’t find much information written about it. I didn’t let that discourage me because I was ready and determined to move forward. I could find information about being a 24/7 slave but that’s not
I am a high maintenance submissive. I’m well aware of the work that my Master has to constantly do to keep me happy and to keep him well-pleased. I’m not ashamed of it because that is who I always have been and he loves me for it. He even encourages some of it. Much of
I Don’t Want to Complain Too Much Read More »
The other day and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel
Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive? Read More »
This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7
Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7? Read More »
Some friends of mine had mentioned that they were unable to find “their One.” Now, some of these friends are tops; some are bottoms. But all indicated their lack of ability to meet a D/s partner that fit them well. Read More: 7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant As I mulled over the
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You Read More »
