Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
Some friends of mine had mentioned that they were unable to find “their One.” Now, some of these friends are tops; some are bottoms. But all indicated their lack of ability to meet a D/s partner that fit them well. Read More: 7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant As I mulled over the […]
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You Read More »
Throughout history, people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, a ceremony that comes from other
Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining Read More »
This is a guest post by tlbsab. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake, but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is huge. In the Vanilla world, we call it gun-shy
What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship? Read More »
Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the marriage. I know I was raised
Submission in Marriage – Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive Read More »
Because of the content of this post, I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor
The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play Read More »
I was once an online submissive. I know a bit about the language and grammar rules that reside there. They are creative and interesting and serve their purpose online. When you bring them into real life they get more annoying, but in some relationships and dynamics, they still serve their purpose. What language adjustments am
As a parent of 2 children and the active property of my Owner and Husband, I thought perhaps it was time to begin writing some about the trials and tribulations as well as the joys and experiences of the parent slave. I was surprised when I first began writing about this topic that no one
…And Along Came Baby: Parenting and Submission Read More »
As always the views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. I write about what I know and what I know is me and my journey. As the old saying goes it’s not over until the fat lady sings. In this instance the fat lady would be me, a few
It’s Not Over Until The Fat Lady Sings AKA The Ending Of A D/s Relationship Read More »
There are birthdays and anniversaries, holidays and special occasions of all sorts and when a submissive wants to shower their Dominant with gifts it can be a challenge on what to get them. If you are like me, you don’t have your own money and any that you ask for you have to quantify with
My Top 10 Low Cost Gift Ideas for Your Dominant Read More »
Rarely have I heard of an end of a relationship being good, civil yes, but good? Yet I have heard on numerous occasions that relationship ends can be bad and others very bad. What makes some of these horrible is the immaturity of the people involved and what that causes them to do. I have
What To Do In a Bad Break-up Situation Read More »
Online BDSM relationships come in many different flavors. As I’ve explored before, they can be a good novice outlet for learning more about yourself in a safe, relatively anonymous environment. I started out in an online relationship only because the fear of being kinky (and an unwilling husband) kept me locked behind my computer. I
When You’re Left to Beating Yourself Up – Online SM at a Glance Read More »
How do you maintain a 24/7 D/s relationship and still live in the real world? This is my new challenge as my Master moved in with me late this summer. Rituals: My original thought was to maintain rituals. When I came home, I wanted to go up to my Master in the house and kneel.
How Do You Live the Dream: 24/7 D/s Relationships Read More »
Monogamy isn’t dead. It is still the leading form of relationship in D/s and SM relationships, no matter what someone else might tell you. Human nature dictates that we aren’t wired for long term fidelity, but so many of us are perfectly fine in one partner for all time relationship. You can still look for monogamy if
Is Monogamy a Dying Trend? The Rise of Poly in BDSM Relationships Read More »
One thing I have learned from my experience as a submissive and my encounters with submissives and slaves all over the place has been the importance of taking things slowly. At one time or another, we all tend to rashly jump into a D/s relationship without really knowing the Dominant that we are surrendering to.
The Importance of Taking Your Time Exploring Submission Before Starting a Relationship Read More »
It’s easy to fall in love, but hard to find the right person to catch you. ~ @iam_jhurlz Dominants the world over are unique and different – just like we are. And when you are on the look out for the one to partner with it can get overwhelming. The qualities to look for in a
The Outline of a Good Compatible Dominant Read More »
Disclaimer: This essay is not about when you encounter or find out your Dominant is cheating, but rather an agreement in place that your Dominant can play with others. About three years ago KnyghtMare and I had a discussion about opening the relationship up for SM play with others. From what I am exposed to
Novice submissives all over trying to find a Dominant to be with. I’ve talked with so many that value some experience in their Dominant choices but what of novice Dominant? Are drive and desire not enough? Are they left to their own devices? I recommend everyone give a moment to think about the value in
What Novice Dominants Really Want in a More Experienced Submissive Read More »
…and why you should stop fussing about it. I’ve been reminded again today as I lay about sick with a snazzy summer flu of feeling like a failure or useless that I can’t serve him and even worse when he brings me my medicine and tucks me in bed for another afternoon nap. So, I
8 Reasons Why Your Dominant Takes Care of You When You Are Sick Read More »
When KnyghtMare started developing desires for play that I wasn’t interested in or wasn’t capable of there was a fear in the pit of my stomach. I was afraid that he would leave me for someone else that wanted to do these things. I felt very insecure about my place in his life and was
Every Submissive’s Worst Fear: When Your Dominant Wants to Play with Others Read More »
I’d commented on a thread recently on the topic of what makes a good dominant here on fetlife and I’ve been thinking about it a little more since then as I have had personal experience of both good and bad doms first hand and from stories and the experiences of friends also. Of course not everyone has the
What Makes a Good Dominant? Read More »
