I think the most frequent question on every novices lip is, “where do I go to find people, partners, and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as easy as going down to your […]
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If you’ve wondered whether you can enjoy kinky playtime with your Dominant in a long-distance relationship (LDR), wonder no more! I am here to tell you that it’s entirely possible—and very enjoyable. While we were separated by a few thousand miles, I was very fortunate that my Dom was only one timezone ahead of me,
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Dear LunaKM I am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and but the phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site, thank u by the way. Here’s my question … He requests a morning text and a
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This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I
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I am 28-year-old gay male and have been following your website for some time now, THANK YOU. I have always been attracted to dominant men and I am now married to one. My question is how to take our relationship to a formal 24/7 D/s place. Some of the challenges are the following: I am
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Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article, you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out with
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In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for
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This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I’m not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It’s an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline, and punishment. Maybe just to keep the roles we each live clearly defined.
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Whether it be for a job or a family crisis, military service or a holiday there might be a time in your submission where your partner must be away from you for a time and might not be able to communicate as often as you’d like. How do you prepare for the loneliness, loss, and
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It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining it for very long. Not only
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In the immortal words of Whitesnake: “And I know what it means/To walk along the lonely street of dreams/And here I go again on my own.” I’ve been released from my Dominant. This was my first D/s relationship, so I don’t have any experience to compare this to. It’s not like a Vanilla break-up. No, not
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I’ve written on the site about how you can work with the partner you have to bring out their Dominance or feel submissive in a subtle way and because of that, I have received a lot of messages of frustrated people trying to make their partner dominate them. The scenario seems to be the same, their partner
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Here’s a scenario I get presented to me a lot in my email and pleas for help and advice: A submissive talks to a person identifying as Dominant online for a few hours, days or weeks. They have intimate talks, compatibility seems to be through the roof and the cyber sex and play, webcams or
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This is a guest post by Dolly. My wanderings into BDSM and Dom/subspace started a few years ago with my partner, initially as a within-bedroom-limits play. In a whirlwind of exploration, delicious pain, laughter and the most deviant of confessions, we now find ourselves in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. As rewarding, grounding and indulgent as
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March 20, 2014. Sir released me tonight. I’ve been released. I admire and respect his reasoning. He has a lot going on and he can’t fulfill his responsibilities as my Dom. He recognizes this and made the decision with my best interests in mind. I didn’t ask for this; I wasn’t unhappy with our relationship.
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This is a guest post by Andrew. How can you find happiness when your owner controls all the money in your relationship? I know this is going to sound corny but—money can’t buy happiness. As long as he or she isn’t driving the two of you into financial ruin by gambling, drinking, etc., then try
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Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging.
Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For? Read More »
Given that it’s February and the world around us has been saturated with heart-shaped balloons, greeting cards, and overly expensive roses, I thought it might be a good time to discuss one way of seeing a D/s relationship. Does this apply to every D/s relationship? Certainly not. D/s relationships are like zebras; no two look the
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KnyghtMare and I get lost in romance sometimes. The love we have for each other manifests in affection, mushy moments where we can only say how much we love each other and that overwhelming sense of joy that comes from a strong romance. For us romance is a part of our M/s relationship. Without knowing
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As a novice looking for a relationship it is a good thing to know if discipline and punishment are something you are looking for. The punishment I’m talking about today is the correction for infractions, or getting into trouble. It’s not about the playtime activities which can be called punishment also. So, thinking about your
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