Your submissive journey is also a path to self-discovery. In this category, you’ll find resources and reflections to help you grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Many people come to this site searching for ways to improve their submission, communicate with their Dominant and explore different aspects of the D/s and BDSM lifestyles. Each day in October I will be writing a post focusing on journaling your submissive experience; from how to start, its purpose and how to use it for […]
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 1: Introduction Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Three months ago I encountered a
Words as Motivation – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Recently I’ve encountered a few questions
Taking a Break – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few
Fear in Submission Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area
Submissive vs. Slave Read More »
Not that long ago, contributing writer andyiccee wrote an article about guilt. It’s a great topic, one I would never have thought of myself, but it is something that everyone deals with. Like most feelings a s-type has in a power exchange relationship, guilt is one of those not so great feelings that can be magnified
Dealing with Guilt as a Submissive Read More »
When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in
Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace Read More »
There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my
Dealing With Submissive Burnout Read More »
When you become submissive to someone, you could be afraid to lose who you were before the power exchange. I know I was afraid of changing too much when I began to identify as a slave instead of a submissive. Would I even recognize myself? Could I still be opinionated and silly, obsessed with Pentatonix
Afraid of Not Being Me Anymore: Transformation Without Fear Read More »
So lately I seem to be extra sensitive to pain, and by lately I mean the last several months. I’m worried that I’ve lost my ability to enjoy and endure pain. Is there something I can do to de-sensitize myself. I like pain and miss it!! Sincerely, I Miss Being a Pain Slut! Hey there, Pain
Extra Sensitive to Pain: What Can I Do To Regain the Pleasure I Used To Have? Read More »
By Sensuous Sadie If I had a nickel for every submissive who hit on me, I could open my own dungeon. The real bummer about the whole thing is that I’m submissive myself. Oh sure, I top now and then, but when it comes down to it, my BDSM orientation is submissive. So, you ask,
Strong and Submissive: Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives Read More »
Dinner time at our house is 6 PM. In my opinion, it’s like the perfect time. Not too early, gives Daddy and I a couple of hours to catch up on our TV shows or to watch a movie and afterwards gives us time to do our own thing before bed. I’m usually very good
Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave Read More »
It’s official. I am just past six months of living with chronic pain and no end in sight. It’s still new to me but somehow, also, it’s now me. It is a part of me that I have had to adjust to, just like once upon a time I had to adjust from a vanilla world to
Life as a Submissive with Chronic Pain Read More »
What ARE you expected to do and know as a submissive? Well, for many who are just starting out, the answer really is not much. But that’s not the kind of answer you accept out of me, right? There’s more to it, isn’t there? Of course there always is, but you have to begin somewhere
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”? Read More »
Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I
Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission? Read More »
I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate.
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. I want you
Your Label – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
This isn’t one of my usual posts that have some sort of resolution in the conclusion because this is something I’m working through and this post is created at least in part as a portion of the out-working. With this in mind, I’m looking forward to your feedback in the comments! This is something that’s
Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value? Read More »
I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Winter is a
Winter Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday Read More »
I work as a veterinary assistant which is both physically and emotionally challenging to the point that when I come home, I’m completely exhausted. I find it very hard to serve my Dominant when this happens. I’m just so worn out from working–I lift (sometimes wrestle!) animals all day, I’m involved in a very fast-paced
Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted Read More »
