In the first few posts about submissive journals you’ve read about the kind of tool a journal is in a relationship, whether that be a new one or a long-standing one, as well as how Dominants use your journal as a tool for communication and relationship building but what about when you are single, or […]
Writing a journal is often a personal choice, but within a D/s dynamic, it can often be a task given from the Dominant to help with communication and understanding the submissive. Often we can get so wrapped up in ourselves and we can forget that a journal is a powerful tool that the Dominant has. Now,
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Hello, I have a question. I’m having a hard time getting past just being angry when my Dom punishes me. Specifically corporal punishment. I understand what I do wrong but it is so hard to just lay there and take it as they say. I don’t want to start a conflict with Sir, I just
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There once was a time when I believed that writing about my feelings was the only way I could honestly express what I felt in my heart. Throughout high school I wrote what I can only describe as teen angst poetry. Little did I know that I would learn more about myself in that writing
When you are trying to understand something related to submission, BDSM or your relationship, a submissive journal is a great place to get it all sorted out. While it may not actually solve your problem or answer your question, the simple use of the journal is one of the best tools in your submissive arsenal.
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After yesterday’s introduction, I am really excited to share my thoughts with you on journaling and how it can help you (even if it’s never seen by anyone but you). Before we get going tomorrow I wanted to find out from you what you’d like to see me talk about in the coming month. So,
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Many people come to this site searching for ways to improve their submission, communicate with their Dominant and explore different aspects of the D/s and BDSM lifestyles. Each day in October I will be writing a post focusing on journaling your submissive experience; from how to start, its purpose and how to use it for
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Three months ago I encountered a
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I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Recently I’ve encountered a few questions
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I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people who I converse with. First I would like to make a point. Language at it’s best shifts from area
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Not that long ago, contributing writer andyiccee wrote an article about guilt. It’s a great topic, one I would never have thought of myself, but it is something that everyone deals with. Like most feelings a s-type has in a power exchange relationship, guilt is one of those not so great feelings that can be magnified
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When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in
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There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my
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When you become submissive to someone, you could be afraid to lose who you were before the power exchange. I know I was afraid of changing too much when I began to identify as a slave instead of a submissive. Would I even recognize myself? Could I still be opinionated and silly, obsessed with Pentatonix
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So lately I seem to be extra sensitive to pain, and by lately I mean the last several months. I’m worried that I’ve lost my ability to enjoy and endure pain. Is there something I can do to de-sensitize myself. I like pain and miss it!! Sincerely, I Miss Being a Pain Slut! Hey there, Pain
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By Sensuous Sadie If I had a nickel for every submissive who hit on me, I could open my own dungeon. The real bummer about the whole thing is that I’m submissive myself. Oh sure, I top now and then, but when it comes down to it, my BDSM orientation is submissive. So, you ask,
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Dinner time at our house is 6 PM. In my opinion, it’s like the perfect time. Not too early, gives Daddy and I a couple of hours to catch up on our TV shows or to watch a movie and afterwards gives us time to do our own thing before bed. I’m usually very good
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It’s official. I am just past six months of living with chronic pain and no end in sight. It’s still new to me but somehow, also, it’s now me. It is a part of me that I have had to adjust to, just like once upon a time I had to adjust from a vanilla world to
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What ARE you expected to do and know as a submissive? Well, for many who are just starting out, the answer really is not much. But that’s not the kind of answer you accept out of me, right? There’s more to it, isn’t there? Of course there always is, but you have to begin somewhere
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