A slave I admire wrote a blog on how she felt she had changed since she met her Master. She wanted to go back to the more outgoing, social being she had been before she met Him. After all, she pointed out, this was what had attracted Him to her in the first place. This […]
Changing for Master While Honoring and Maintaining Ourselves Read More »
How many times have you heard a submissive say how he/she loves to be told they are a “good girl/boy” by their dominant? Yet how many times have any of them been able to pin point the why of the effect it has on them? What is it about those words from their dominant that differs from
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The world is full of automatic responses that people use to common questions. One of the most common questions among submissives is “Why do you submit?” and what’s the response 9 times out of 10? “To please him.” Sure it’s a selfless response, but is it always the best answer and perhaps not the most
Why “Pleasing Him” Isn’t Always Good Enough Read More »
I’ve been struggling with my submission recently. It’s been a difficult and painful experience for both KnyghtMare and myself. I’ve been resisting my natural desires to serve and obey and become questioning and testy. As I try to say as much as possible, I’m not a perfect submissive and I have issues like many of
How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me Read More »
This is a guest post by fuzzyP. I’ve put this question off long enough. It’s one of those questions that can cause a person to take a long, uncomfortable look at oneself, and I don’t know too many people who like doing that. My answer may not be quite what you expect. Men are strong,
Is Male Submission a Form of Weakness? Read More »
I can’t say that everyone gets into trouble without admitting that I get into trouble so here goes. I get into trouble. Not regularly or habitually, but sometimes. I’m in trouble right now in fact. Some of my punishment completed but I have a few weeks of “no pop” to get through yet. As a
You’ve Been a Bad Submissive: Learn How to Atone and Forgive Yourself Read More »
I’m always amazed at the number of submissives that contact me who are in online-only relationships; even though that is how I started with KnyghtMare. An online relationship is unique in that you are connecting with each other emotionally and mentally before physical attraction has a chance to impact your decisions. Just the other day
Am I Ready to Go from Online Submission to Real Life? Read More »
When someone says they have a mentor and that they are learning so much from them I’m happy for them. That is until they start saying that they are having sex with their mentor, or that they play intensely with them. It goes against everything I ever learned about mentors and rubs me wrong and
To be honest I never gave faith much thought when I discovered I was kinky. I had been drifting away from organized religion for years, but when I read on a blog (which I can’t recall now) that someone was having to come to terms with her Christianity and desires for kink/submission it made me
You Are Not Going To Hell: My Personal Thoughts on Balancing Christianity and Kink Read More »
This post continues the Domestic Servitude Series. Once considered old ladies’ busy work, I’m here to try to bring a comeback to knitting. With knitting you can provide items for the home that will not only last longer but usually work better and are far cheaper (in the long run). Knitting can be a peaceful
Beginning Domestic Service: Basic Knitting Tips and Tutorials Read More »
Every year many people sit down and make a long list of resolutions they’d like to accomplish in the coming year. It’s a grand idea and one that I tend to participate in every other year or so. But the downfall of this sort of plan is in the timing. You may not be ready
Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams Read More »
“We all use these terms freely like Daddy and little, but seriously think back to when you were 4 or 5… Did the thought ever enter your head of where supper came from? How your school clothes appeared in your closet? What caused that warm bed with the covers and teddy bear to be in
How a Quote about Child-like Blind Faith Taught Me to Submit Completely Read More »
Listening to holiday music on the radio the popular holiday song “Home Sweet Home” comes on and gets me to thinking about my submission. Yeah, I know that sounds silly but stay with me here. When the moments come where I’m filled to overflowing with emotion and love, I realize just how much my submission
Home Sweet Home: What Submission Means to Me This Time of Year Read More »
I’ve been putting this subject off, and I’m still sort of waffling on moving on to something else, but that’s mostly because, I’m not a legal professional, either. On this topic, in particular, I can only speak to my opinion, experience, and tenuous understanding of the law in New York State, and really don’t know
Kink and Mental Health: The Ethics and Legality of Consent Read More »
When we first begin exploring submission and our desires to serve there are usually a lot of baggage we bring to the table. It can cloud our minds and impact how we serve and submit to someone else. No one comes without any baggage at all but the way you handle it and prepare for
Purging Your Emotional Garbage Can Will Prepare You Better for Service Read More »
On the subject of sub drop and mental health issues, Aletheia asked: I have suffered from clinical depression since early adolescence, if not childhood. I’ve been on medication for ten years, and rarely feel depressed anymore. My mentor suggested that I might want to avoid heavy or intense play, as she suspects that with my
Kink and Mental Health: Can “sub drop” be a trigger? Read More »
“What are your limits?” “Scat, blood, the dead and kids.” “You must be new.” “Huh?” “Only the novices have so few limits.” This is a real conversation. It happens all over the net and in munch groups. Sure there are no-limits slaves out there, but that’s just not as common as the rest of us. We come
Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand Read More »
One of my earliest fantasies, or dreams actually, was the idea of being owned by someone and I envisaged the whole notion of belonging to someone much more simple and much more ‘me’ than the concept of being obedient or submissive as such. I wanted to belong more than I wanted to obey. I am
The Value of a Slave Read More »
This is the second installment in my Kink and Mental Health series. For a little background on my experience with mental health issues, please read the first. I have a tendency to think every tiny mishap I go through is the end of the world. “Oh my god. I just spilled a cup of sand into
Kink and Mental Health: Real Emotion v. Mental Illness Read More »
One of the many unique things about being a submissive is that you can focus your development any which way you choose. You can focus on service or sex, kinky play or happy devotion. Your submission can be part time, full time or somewhere in-between. No one should judge you for how you want to
A Slave Heart – Do You Have One? Do You Need One? Read More »
