It may not be clear to others by now but I’m pretty good at asking myself questions and asking questions for reflection with others. It’s how much of the topics I write come to be. I ask myself a question and then try to answer it. It’s an art that I’ve had to learn because […]
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Hi, everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. If you want to read the book at a later time, I suggest you skip this book club series – as I can’t promise there won’t be “spoilers.” Then again, this
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Last week I told you the exciting news; Submissive Guide will be hosting a month long book club event on one of my favorite and most recommended books about submission, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. I hope all of you rushed off and ordered your book because today we start reading! Please read the forward,
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I’ve wanted to hold an online book club event on Submissive Guide for quite some time and if you are a member of the Club you may have noticed a book club group there. This is the first book club event that I’m holding through the blog and I hope many of you will follow
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Last month I told you about a model I’ll be using to help you coach yourself into a better submissive space called the CREATE Model. It has worked for me to begin the internal work on the parts of me I’d like to change. Today we’ll talk about one of the steps of the CREATE Model
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There is a unique and beautiful relationship sometimes between submissives. It is a sisterhood/brotherhood of sorts that is built upon mutual experience, trust, and the need for understanding from someone who has been there before or is there now. In my time in the lifestyle, I have seen this as a wonderful thing and a
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It is the people who can do nothing who can find nothing to do, and the secret of happiness in this world is not only to be useful, but to be forever elevating one’s usefulness – Sandra Orne Jewett Reading what I have to say day in and day out can lead you to a
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This is another entry into the self-mentoring series here on Submissive Guide. If your recall back in the first post about solo coaching I asked you and tasked you to start holding private coaching sessions with yourself. Hopefully, you have kept up with these and have earmarked a few challenges in your life that might need some
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Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life. Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a
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Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I consider struggle is actually self-created. That’s
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Self-worth is inherent in all of us. We gather our own opinions about ourselves and based on what we think other people think of us. I had a tendency to rate myself, at say five or six on a scale from one to ten, in terms of how worthy I was. Worthy of happiness, success, joy,
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Would you normally hesitate to schedule in time or appointments with just about every person in your life? Well now is the time to change that up a bit. Pull out your schedule right now and plan your first few solo coaching meetings with yourself. That’s right – just you. We are going to work
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We can all probably say that we have dreamed of not having to work for a living. It may even be your dream to be a stay at home submissive but don’t see that ever happening for you. There are a few of us, like myself, who get to live the “dream.” The reason I
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There is a problem that is more common within online submission that I refer to as shelf-sitting. I have experienced it and am slowly seeing it happen to others that I know of online communities. It is sad that this is occurring but perhaps I could shed some light on what it is and perhaps
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You are a Reflection of Your Dominant – Or Are You? I’ve heard this numerous times and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Kind, good-intentioned people say that submissives should be on their best behavior because they are the reflection of the Dominant who owns them. The personal responsibility of the submissive is all
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We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene from time to time. This year
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Inspired by the song “ I Will Get There” by Boys II Men This post is for all the single submissives that read this site. I know there is a large percentage of you so there is no reason to be silent any longer. I know the pain and loneliness you are going through. I know
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Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything
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This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I
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This is a guest post for the Day in a Life Series. Thank you Tlbsab! First, let me say that this article is in no way meant to offend anyone and is meant for information only. Religion is the basis of our relationship and is the reason that our lifestyle works for our family. I
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