In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.” For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy of […]
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I’m so glad I found your site. I am a large woman, about 275, who started exploring but has not yet experienced a D/s relationship. I think I’ve resolved much of my conflict about my sexuality, but I’ve some lingering issues to deal with from the last time I was thinner. I lost 90 pounds
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Entering into a D/s relationship where you will have rules and behaviors expected of you is a daunting proposition for many submissives. How do you remember all of the rules? How do you remain accountable when you aren’t in the same place as your Dominant? It’s not an instant shift in mindset, but you eventually
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When I was twenty, I met my first dominant in person. I was extremely excited and nervous about this because for months before meeting in person, we had talked a great deal through emails, online chatting services, and phone calls. The weekend he and I had planned to meet was over Memorial Day weekend. This
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The many lessons in life can be picked up in some of the most unusual places. The other day I was watching my cats and had a sudden realization that they way they live could have lessons for me and my submission if I wanted to see them. The truth is that you can pick
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So far, my time in the lifestyle has been one that involved several mentorships. A few times I was the one learning and a few times I was the one passing on the knowledge. But, in all of those times, I also took away far more than I gave. I think that happens – when
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Jealousy. At one time or another we all have felt it. Handling jealousy when it comes to our partners is a trait we all should have, but many don’t. We get spiteful, possessive and plain horrible when we feel jealousy rear it’s green pointy head. Some people are more prone to feelings of jealousy than
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Sometimes it is difficult to find balance when there is so much going on in your life. It is important, however, to find some compromise within yourself because otherwise, you may become stressed out. No one wants to be stressed out if they can help it. I know I don’t like that feeling. Balance can
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Today is day 21 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” -Mahatma Gandhi If you are lost as
Submissive Advent – Day 21: Volunteerism is Next to Submission Read More »
Today is the final day of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. “There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground.” – Rumi This quote has been used in many ways
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Today is day 23 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. One of my all time favorite activities during the holiday season is to look at Christmas lights. As a child, we used to be
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Today is day 22 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. From Here We Come a-Wassailing Love and joy come to you, And to you your wassail too; And God bless you and
Submissive Advent – Day 22: Here We Come a Caroling Read More »
Today is day 20 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Let’s enjoy the holidays today! Get all your supplies to make a batch of your favorite Christmas cookies. It’s not the time
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Today is day 19 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Most of us enjoy the splendor and glory of candles. Candles are visible reminders of our possible triumph over darkness. Have you
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Today is day 18 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. The inspiration for today comes from one of my favorite stories, The Velveteen Rabbit. It has a wonderful ending that we all
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Today is day 17 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Showing gratitude is a wonderful way to express to someone that you care for them, who they are and what they have
Submissive Advent – Day 17: A Moment of Gratitude Read More »
Today is day 16 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This has been all over the internet but it’s a great find. Read it and connect to your own submission today. A
Submissive Advent – Day 16: Prayer Read More »
Today is day 15 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. Being submissive, we often forget that our needs are important and may even push them aside so that we can focus only
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Today is day 14 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. I am afraid. I am afraid that so many novice submissives will not reach their full potential because of fears they will
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Today is day 13 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. This, friends, is going to be a hard task. But trust me, by the end of it you will have learned something
Submissive Advent – Day 13: Seen But Not Heard Read More »
