From understanding basic kink concepts to exploring various fetishes, this category is your starting point for building a solid foundation in the world of BDSM.
So I kinda would like to explore bigger toys in my butt, but you hear all these myths. Like, if you go too big you’ll make your butthole so loose you become incontinent and other gross stuff. Is this true? No. In fact, just like the vagina, the muscles in the anus are incredibly elastic […]
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Butt Stretching Read More »
It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have a relationship with! I’m going
BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With? Read More »
We sat in a friend’s living room as they showed us their collection of floggers. Each one a little different from the last. Some with more weight in the handle, some with thin tails, and still others were fluffy. This is what my introduction to kinky toys looked like. Floggers are a very common first
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some time pulling together the entire year’s count of sales through Amazon.com from Submissive Guide’s links. I wanted to know what you all were reading! And boy is it interesting! Check it out and if you see a book that peaks your interest, head on over through the link and check it out. Your other
The Year’s Best-Selling BDSM Books and eBooks from Amazon Voted by YOU Read More »
I will never forget the feeling of “coming home” when I opened the door to BDSM. My whole being was able to relax knowing I was submissive and that I was not the only one. I was also excited beyond belief and felt like I had so much to learn about this new side of
Getting Started At the Kinky Buffet Read More »
About a month ago, I got an email from a reader telling me that she and her dominant are interested in the Daddy/little girl lifestyle and asked me if I knew of any other online resources other than my previous articles that have appeared here on Submissive Guide. Sadly to say, I didn’t have many
The Best Resources for Littles, Adult Babies, and Diaper Lovers Read More »
This is a guest post by Mia. I was a closet lesbian until 2003 and a closet kinkster until 2010, I lost friends each time I came out. When I told people about my sexuality in 2003 I was called a dyke, a pervert and a liar by some of the people I thought of as
Coming Out of the Closet… Twice Read More »
The collar you wear is a reminder of your submission and your relationship with your Dominant. It can mean the same as a wedding ring or that you are submissive to them for a certain period of time. More often than not, the Dominant is the one who gave you that collar. But is there
A Symbol for Dominants? Read More »
Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help
BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive? Read More »
Growing up my parents were extremely physically and emotionally abusive. I moved out when I was thirteen, but I carried the previous abuse with me wherever I went. It made me cry when I detected the slightest amount of anger towards me, it made me shake and pull away when people waved their hands at
How S&M Saved My Life Read More »
You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It
BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…? Read More »
Hi. My slave and I are going to a dungeon together for the first time. I’m wondering about how she should talk. She has rules for talking with me. But not for talking with others in the community. I know she should be respectful to all. But how should she address other Masters and slaves?
How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party? Read More »
Over at my personal blog, InsatiableDesire.com, I write a series called ” No Stupid (Kink) Questions (NSKQ)”. I started it a few years ago because every time I stuck my head in a kink forum, I found serious questions asked by newbies and never really answered by more advanced kinksters. I mean, if you are proficient in
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Should my vagina be burning?! Read More »
With the trailer of the “50 Shades of Grey” movie being released, my Facebook newsfeed and what I have seen on Fetlife in multiple groups, that’s all anyone seems to be able to talk about. I have managed to not see the trailer because I have no interest, but some of the discussions that have come up,
BDSM and the Media: The Influence of Media on the Perception of BDSM Read More »
One thing I learned while putting together the Guide to Your First Munch was that when someone goes to a meeting for kinky people, with the idea that they are entering a whole new world, they think that all the courtesies and manners they learned before are somehow no longer extinct. People often ask me how they
Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene Read More »
The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset
Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks Read More »
This is a guest post by Erika McClean. There is a whip in my closet that is an antique. It’s the kind that Drayers would use on their horse teams when driving a carriage. When I’ve been particularly bad, or good, Master will unhook that puppy from the rope it’s hanging on. Those moments, as he
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 4 – Endorphins Read More »
Dear lunaKM, I would like some advice on how to tell my family and my children who are teenagers that I am committing myself to my Dom. I have been a single Mother for many years and live in a very rural area. My Dom and I have been in a long distance relationship for
How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant? Read More »
This is a guest post by Erika McClean. Do you ever have that feeling when your Master is working you over and waiting for you to say “uncle,” that you will be damned if you’re going to say it before his arm gets too tired to flog you anymore? I do. I’m a brat through and
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 3 – Testosterone Read More »
I was curious about BDSM before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into BDSM but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows
How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle? Read More »
