Just because a person also loves having sex while rolling in jello does not mean they are compatible with you. That’s right, I just said it. You’ve searched the world over for someone interested in the same kinky things you are and when you found one, I’m telling you to hold it right there a […]
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This is a guest post by moonlight. No matter how you choose to go about it, kinky or vanilla, we want to keep our fun-loving activities away from our children. However, by their very nature, children are curious little people who can have quite the sneaky side and don’t like missing what everyone is up
What’s That Sound? Discreet BDSM Play and Hiding Toys from Children Read More »
When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully, you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk
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You’re sitting at your computer (or tablet, or phone) right now and have wondered for some time about going to a BDSM munch or a party or convention but are afraid that you don’t fit into the image you have in your head of who really is into BDSM. You’ve seen the porn on Kink.com
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I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems
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If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then
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Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you
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You are in trouble and waiting for corporal punishment. You are anxious, sad, depressed, frustrated about the whole thing but you know that you did something wrong and need to atone for it to get on the right path again. No one likes getting punished (at least you shouldn’t), so what happens if, as the
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Most adults over the age of 21 already know that a trip to Las Vegas can yield any number of experiences, mostly depending on what you’re looking for. Las Vegas is one of the few places in the world where you can literally say “anything is possible.” It’s a fun place for singles, couples, and
Road Trip: Taking your D/s Relationship to Fantastic Las Vegas! Read More »
This is a guest post by moonlight. Many of us love our kinky toys and the collection just keeps growing the longer you are in the community. Floggers, canes, crops, clothespins, candles, you name it. If you look around my house, those aren’t the toys you will see – it looks more like an explosion
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Today’s newsletter is going to be a light and fun one, I hope. I’ve done some work to find jokes and funny stories with a BDSM or sexual slant to them. Not everything we do in BDSM is serious. Here’s a story, told by my Master KnyghtMare. It’s a true story. The AC Was Broken…
Humor in BDSM – Jokes, Funny Tales, and When the AC Was Broken Read More »
This is a guest post by Erika McLean. My kids get up at just about 6 am like clockwork every day. They tend to wander out in the middle of the night into the living room because they’ve had a nightmare. Anyone who has kids is going to recognize this as how your own life works. Anyone who
When the Walls Have Ears – 5 Strategies for D/s and BDSM Play with Kids Around Read More »
I try to share a new book with you every other month. I’m still reading the book I had planned for this month so I thought I’d open the floor for you to let me know what you think of a book you’ve read. If you’ve cozied up with a book recently and want to
Have you Read a Good BDSM-Related Book Recently? Send Me a Review! Read More »
This is a guest post by kaya of Under His Hand. I tend to think of my particular brand of masochism like a chronic illness. Like, say, the diabeetus. (Some) people who have diabetes have to stab themselves with needles regularly. They have to take shots and watch their diet, and they do these things,
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As a submissive or slave, there are a lot of things our owners give to us. To me, two important things that owners can give to their property is a collar of ownership and an orgasm and I was reminded of the second gift while reading. This is the next in my series of passages
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Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of …decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side Read More »
Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist to masochist) – however there are
How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play Read More »
I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission Read More »
This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to escape from it; rarely do I
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization Read More »
There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don’t like to miss a single episode. What is a podcast you ask? And there really are adult kink-oriented podcasts? Why yes! A podcast is an
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