Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further.

You may have heard a time or two that submission is a gift and that a Dominant has to earn that gift. Even if you don't ascribe to that ideal, submitting to someone has value to yourself and the one you choose to serve. When you choose to submit, it comes with a responsibility to yourself and your well-being. If you've chosen well then the Dominant will pick up some of that care and responsibility for you - but not all of it. You should always have some personal responsibility set aside so that if things turn bad you can turn back and recapture what you need to make your life right.

So, how you value your submission is an important measure. Make is strong. Make it beautiful. Make it unique. Let is shine and grow so that those around you know how special you are.

You are special.

It takes a strong person to be vulnerable and submissive to another person. Don't let anyone convince you that you are weak. A submissive can not be weak - we've chosen a hard path. Let your submissive manner build you up, give you strength and joy in who you are.

Because you KNOW who you are.


Searching for a Dominant that will treat you right is a life long journey. It's about taking wrong turns and backtracking. It may be going in circles or standing at crossroads for a long time. But keep moving. Keep looking for the right road and the right person to offer yourself to. As you go along, allow yourself to make mistakes on your choices, they better your future decisions. And if a Dominant changes so that he no longer cares for you as you know you should be, then leave him at the dead end road. Move on.

Submission isn't about submitting to anyone. It's about making your submission so valuable that it's only worthy to those that will understand that value and won't muddy the gem with disrespect, uncaring words or deeds. You deserve the best. Because you are the best.

You are valuable. Take time to feel your value today. Let it fill you and bring warmth to your skin and a light in your eyes. Lift your steps and know that as a submissive, you are worth the time, the challenge and the effort.

You are worth it. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.