This is a six part series all about experiencing play from the right side of the slash. It is intended to be a helpful guide for you to push yourself further in your play, to experience new things, to open your mind and body to new sensations.
I want to briefly mention safety in the beginning here. Risk Aware Consensual Kink. Whether you are a newbie to all of this or decades deep into your BDSM path, remember to be aware of the risks associated with this type of play, to be sure you are playing with a partner that you can trust, and never hesitate to use an agreed upon safe word if you’d like the play to change or stop.
That said, let us dive into this part of the series:
Like bondage? Try mummification…
Basics of bondage:
It is the B in BDSM, an absolute cornerstone of what it is that we do. There are plenty of people in the Lifestyle that only do this. They have no interest in the Power Exchange, in the kinky sex. They simply like to be bound. Many times though, these things cross over.
Bondage is being consensually bound, restrained, or tied in some way by a partner. Bondage can be done with things like rope, cuffs, fabric, or bondage tape. This is a really simply concept, but is again and again the draw for many bottoms or submissives. So instead of the “what” part of bondage, let’s look at the “why” of bondage. Why is it so alluring to so many people?
Being immobilized by a Top or Dominant is can be a physical manifestation of giving up control . The mental side of Dominance and submission is a lot more invisible but this is a tangible version of power exchange. When you are being bound, you are putting control of your well being into another person’s hands. What happens if there is a fire? If there is an emergency? You can be putting your life at stake. That takes a ton of trust. That kind of vulnerability can make your heart stammer.
Along with that, there is the ability to drop your sexual inhibitions. You are bound. If you are being used sexually, you probably aren’t going to be controlling how fast or hard you’re being used. If it is “out of your hands” (still well within pre-negotiated agreements), well, you can be used to do any little naughty thing and it’s not up to you. This kind of sexual freedom is an awesome ability provided by adding bondage to your sexual experience.
And there is thrill of “the fight.” Many people enjoy being tightly bound and trying to get out of it, as if it is personal challenge. To tussle against the ropes, to try and get away, to feel the tightness and binding bite into your skin. Similar to the basics of spanking, bondage really allows you to create any mood you are seeking. It can be gentle, sensual, and relaxing. Or it can be the fight of your life.
Many people have a much easier time getting to subspace while bound. Be prepared to experience that and reseatch into proper aftercare prior to being tied.
Caveat:
As I mentioned above, you can be literally putting your life into somebody else’s hands. Only practice responsible bondage with partners you trust. This isn’t something to try out with that new person you just met online yesterday.
Why and how to add mummification?
If you enjoy bondage, whether it is trying out under the bed restraints, basic rope ties, or other means of being tied, consider looking into mummification. This was a big hard no for me in the beginning. And like many people I have spoken with, my big hard no became an “oh my goodness yesssss” once I tried it out. Mummification is using plastic wrap, medical tape, body bags, or other materials to completely restrict and immobilize the body.
We use a giant spool of plastic wrap that can be purchased pretty affordably on places like Amazon. Yup. Plastic wrap, like wrap-up-the-leftover-meal plastic wrap. The Mister and I have enjoyed starting out in mummification by wrapping tightly from shoulders down to toes in this stuff. It makes me entirely immobile. It is so…unbelievably…relaxing. This style of play has actually become a reward of sorts, because it almost instantly puts me into subspace. When you can’t even wiggle your toes, your body reacts in funny ways. It is peaceful and a wonderful way to truly give up control… of everything. Just be sure to use the bathroom before you start. Because once you get out, that’s it. Also keep a blanket handy. The temperature change in the room once removed is a shock to the system (you get very warm when mummified.)
Begging for even more?
Put cotton balls near nipples and genitals while being mummified. Using safe measures, once bound, cut the plastic wrap and remove the cotton, leaving the nipples and genitals exposed for fun… or torture… while immobilized.
Additional Submissive Guide/Dominant Guide reading on the topics at hand:
Give us some feedback in the comments to continue the discussion! Have you ever tried these types of play? How is your experience similar or different? If somebody is interested in bondage, what else would you suggest they try out? What other play would you like to incorporate?
