If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don't rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not unusual for a submissive to bring her own toy bag to a party or gathering. You will not be looked upon poorly, but rather very well prepared for a fun time.
A key reason you need some of your own toys is health safety. Using other people's toys leaves you open to disease and illnesses, other people's body oils and fluids and anything else they may be carrying. Toys like leather and cloth are porous and will absorb these things easily. Some, like leather, aren't easily disinfected and cleaned. Being prepared will keep you safe.
- A basic first aid kit
- Tylenol and aspirin
- Your medications
- Hard candy or other quick dissolving sugar item for non-diabetic hypoglycemia
- Latex gloves (or non-latex if you have an allergy)
- Disposable Underpads (Chux) or towels
- Baby wipes
Personal Play Items
Another set of items you should have in your play bag is personal play items. These are also called insertables. Dildos, vibrators, anal toys and other sexual items should be used on you only. Bring the ones that you prefer to have used on you and do not allow others to use ones they brought with them. This may seem like common sense, but if insertable play is allowed where you are playing, some tend to offer up whatever is available. Politely decline.
- Butt plugs
- Anal beads
- Clit massagers
- Hitachi wands
- Ben wa balls
- Rope for bondage around the genitals
This category is anything that you want to be used on you. This could be floggers, paddles, slappers, whips, canes. If you come with a small number of these items then another Dominant isn't going to feel obligated to use his. This is actually to protect the Dominant's items. If you bleed or sweat heavily or any other fluid gets all over the Dominant's treasured flogger, he really has no choice but to give it to you. Cleaning leather is next to impossible. Fluid bonded toys should only be used on the person for which the fluids belong. Master has a set of fluid bonded floggers that while others oggle over them they can not use them. We have given over several floggers in this way (Master tends to pop zits and open scratches and continues). This is something we are aware of and prepared for, but if you come with your own toys they will more than likely play with you with them.
Lastly are any items that are likely to be uncommon or that you have that are special. This could be a hand painted cupping set or perhaps a set of needles with ribbons attached. Anything that you may be one of only a few to own it, bring it with you.
- Tens Units
- Violet Wands
- Special needles or blades
- Unique toys like a rose flogger
Anything else I may have missed? What do you have in your toybag?