Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

But, before we get going on the ideas, a few safety tips to keep in mind:

Talk about what is going to happen and what you will do with each other.

You don't have to ruin any surprises but it's nice to not be completely in the dark either. After all, this is supposed to be fun, sexy and hot!

Agree on a safeword.

It's a code word that means "stop, I really mean it." BDSM practitioners often avoid the words "no" or "stop" because of how fun it is to playfully struggle and it's a common fantasy.  Selecting a word that would never come up in scene as your safeword is a good idea. If there will be gags used, dropping a set of keys, using a dog-training clicker or ringing a bell are common solutions.

Be Prepared.

Have a few things handy for those just in case moments. Are you going to tie your partner up? Then make sure you have scissors to cut them out if you need to. Don't forget keys to handcuffs before you put them on and a bottle of water can keep you going in long, exhausting play.

The Ideas

There are as many ways to "do" BDSM stuff as there are people...so really, what you can do is almost limitless. These are just a few ideas to bring into your sex life.

Set The Scale

If you are exploring impact play or a new toy, the partner that receives the impact play will announce the scale of pain for each strike given. This is meant to help both parties learn their limits. The bottom will learn how intense they can tolerate and the Top will learn how to handle the tool/toy to consistently give a certain degree of the strike.

The Captured Spy

The partner who plays the spy gets tied to a chair while the captor uses pleasure and pain alternatively to pump them for information them. You can do this until they are forced to ‘divulge the secret codes’ (their safe word).

The Roadside Police Stop

Dressed as a police officer, pull your partner over and ask to see their license and registration. Maybe they aren’t cooperating or maybe they just seem suspicious, but you better ask them to step out of the car and handcuff them. Frisk them to make sure they’re not dangerous, and then decide from there whether you need them to get into the backseat of your car.

The Great Escape

Use your best dirty talk and what body movements you can manage while all tied up to convince the stoic guard that you’re innocent(ish)and need to be freed. Of course, you’ll reward them for doing so.

Dirty Dancing

The dancer gets to pick the song that they think is the sexiest and show off their moves until their patron gets too handsy. Use something you have around the room or a prop like stockings to keep the patron restrained to their chair, and then they have to struggle against their bonds while the dancer continues their strip tease.

The Boss and the Secretary

When one of you plays the boss, the other can be the eager-to-please assistant or even one who has been slacking off terribly; either way, the paperwork has been mounting up for too long and it’s about time the two of you got down to a bit of long overdue after hours admin.

Teacher and Pupil

A traditional, of course. One plays the teacher, the other the student. Who the gets to be the naughty one is up to you. Is it a teacher that says you have to earn your "A" or is it a student that wants to get out of staying after class? The fun is even better if you can find a costume.

Taken by Force

Many scenarios include the submissive being taken by "force". One fun technique that can make this more fun is to buy cheap clothing from a thrift store that can be torn, sliced, or cut off the submissive. Cheap, disposable clothing can lend a fun air of realism to the scenario.

No matter what sort of fun you get up to, whether you choose one of these scenarios or your own, you'll learn a lot about what you are interested in, what turns out to be hot in reality and what doesn't. Don't take any as a failure. It's all a learning experience that should fulfill you and add spice to your life!