Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common letter groupings when it comes to talking about BDSM and submission. These could also be seen in profiles and dating sites.
@: In discussions, addressing a reply to that user's statement @OP: Addressing a reply to the Original Post (and/or Poster)
.02 (as in "my .02"): two cents' worth 24/7: Full-time relationship (24 hrs, 7 days)
A-C
* AB: Adult Baby * ABDL: Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers * AFK: Away From The Keyboard. Similar to BRB, but indicates you might be gone for longer. * ANR: Adult Nursing Relationship * ATM: Ass To Mouth * ASL: Age, Sex, Location? This was a popular question in chat rooms, but not so much on sites such as this where your A, S and L are probably stated in—profile.*
BBW: Big Beautiful Woman * BD: Bondage and Discipline * BDSM: General term referring to the entire range of D/s; an amalgamation of abbreviations:
- BD: Bondage and Discipline
- D/s: Dominance and submission
- S/m: Sado-masochism
BFD: Big Fucking Deal * BRB - Be Right Back... commonly used when IMing * BS: Bullshit! * BUMP: In discussion, a "bump" is entering a response whose sole purpose is to bring the thread back to the top of the list. * BYOT: Bring Your Own Toys (helps prevent spread of diseases)
CBT: Cock and Ball Torture * CD: Cross Dresser * CDD: Christian Domestic Discipline
D-F
* *DL: Diaper Lover * DM: Dungeon Monitor * D/s: Dominance/submission * DTTAH: Don't Try This At Home
EMC: Erotic Mind Control
FEM: Abbrev. for "female", as in FEM DOM. * FFF, FMF, FMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. * FFS: For Fucks Sake * FtM: Female to Male transgender (see TG note) * FUBAR: Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition * FUMTU: Fucked Up More Than Usual * FWIW: For What It's Worth * FYI: For Your Information
*G-J
*GF: Gender Fluid * GG: Gender Girl * GIGO: Garbage In Garbage Out * GL: Good Looking * GM: Gender Male * GMTA: Great Minds Think Alike (can be combined with YFSD) * GTMI: Giving Too Much Information * GQ: Gender Queer
HARD: Honour Accountability Responsibility Duty. * HILT: Honesty Integrity loyalty Trust. * HWP: Height-Weight Proportional
IANAL: I Am Not A Lawyer * IDGAD, IDGAF: I Don't Give A Damn (Fuck) * IM (IMing) - Instant Messenger. Refers to chat services like Yahoo Messenger and Skype, think of it as texting from your computer. * IMHO: In My Honest Opinion * IMhO: In My humble Opinion * IMNSHO: In My Not So Humble Opinion * IMO: In My Opinion * IMPE: In My Personal Experience * RL: In Real Life * ISO: In Search Of (usu. refers to "personals" ad)
K-M
*KMA: Kiss My Ass
LD, LDR: Long Distance Relationship * LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans (generalization encompassing all of alternate sexuality) * LMAO: Laughing My Ass Off * LMBO: Laughing My Butt Off * LOL: Laughing Out Loud * LT, LTR: Long-Term Relationship
MC: Mind Control * MILF: Mother I'd Like to Fuck * MFF, MFM, MMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. * MFIC: Mother Fucker In Charge * MtF: Male to Female transgender * MYOB, MYOFB: Mind Your Own (Fucking) Business
N-Q
*NBD, NBFD: No Big (Fucking) Deal * NLA: National Leather Association * NSA: No Strings Attached
OL, O/L, OLR: On-line relationship * OP: Original Post or Original Poster * OSO: Other Significant Other * OTK: Over The Knee
PE: Power Exchange * PYL: Pick Your Label
*R-V
*R & P: Restraint and Pleasure * RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink (alternative philosophy to SSC) * ROFL, ROTFL: Rolling On (The) Floor Laughing * ROFLMAO: Rolling On Floor Laughing My Ass Off * RL, R/L: Real Life * RT, R/T: Real Time * RU, RUA: Are you (a) ______?
SAM, SAS: Smart-Ass Masochist/Subbie * SDS: Same Damned Spot * SNAFU: Situation Normal: All Fucked Up * SO: Significant Other * SOSDD: Same Old Shit, Different Day * SRS: Sexual Reassignment Surgery * SSBBW: Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman * SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual (alternative philosophy to RACK) * SSDD: Same Shit, Different Day
TB: Teen Baby * TBH, TBTH: To Be (Totally) Honest * TFF: Too Fucking Funny * TG: Trans-Gender * TGFM, TG F-M, TG FtoM, etc: Trans-Gender Female-to-Male * TGMF, TG M-F, TG MtoF, etc: Trans-Gender Male-to-Female * TIA: Thanks In Advance * TIH: Taken In Hand * TLDR: Too Long, Didn't Read * TMI: Too Much Information * TPE: Total Power Exchange * TTFN: Ta Ta For Now * TTYL: Talk To You Later * TTYS: Talk To You Soon * TV: Transvestite * TY: Thank You * TYVM: Thank You Very Much * TY,TYVM
UDM: Ultimate Decision Maker
W-Z
*WEG: Wicked Evil Grin * WIITWD: What It Is That We Do * WTF: What the Fuck * WTMI: Way Too Much Information
YFSD: Yet Fools Seldom Differ (can be combined with GMTA) * YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink * YKNMKBTOK: Your Kink's Not My Kink But That's OK * YKINMKBYKIOK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK * YKINNMK: Your Kink Is Not Necessarily My Kink * YKINOK: Your Kink Is Not OK * YKIOK, IJNMK: Your Kink Is OK, It's Just Not My Kink * YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary * YMW: You're Most Welcome * YQW, YRQW: You're (Really) Quite Welcome * YW: You're Welcome
Special thanks to BDSM Glossary for compiling the initial list.
Anything else I should add to this list? Suggest them in the comments!
