Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common letter groupings when it comes to talking about BDSM and submission. These could also be seen in profiles and dating sites.

@: In discussions, addressing a reply to that user's statement @OP: Addressing a reply to the Original Post (and/or Poster)

.02 (as in "my .02"): two cents' worth 24/7: Full-time relationship (24 hrs, 7 days)

A-C

AB: Adult Baby ABDL: Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers AFK: Away From The Keyboard. Similar to BRB, but indicates you might be gone for longer. ANR: Adult Nursing Relationship ATM: Ass To Mouth ASL: Age, Sex, Location? This was a popular question in chat rooms, but not so much on sites such as this where your A, S and L are probably stated in—profile.

BBW: Big Beautiful Woman BD: Bondage and Discipline BDSM: General term referring to the entire range of D/s; an amalgamation of abbreviations:

  • BD: Bondage and Discipline
  • D/s: Dominance and submission
  • S/m: Sado-masochism

BFD: Big Fucking Deal BRB - Be Right Back... commonly used when IMing BS: Bullshit! BUMP:  In discussion, a "bump" is entering a response whose sole purpose is to bring the thread back to the top of the list. BYOT: Bring Your Own Toys (helps prevent spread of diseases)

CBT: Cock and Ball Torture CD: Cross Dresser CDD: Christian Domestic Discipline

D-F

DL: Diaper Lover DM: Dungeon Monitor D/s: Dominance/submission DTTAH: Don't Try This At Home

EMC: Erotic Mind Control

FEM: Abbrev. for "female", as in FEM DOM. FFF, FMF, FMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. FFS: For Fucks Sake FtM: Female to Male transgender (see TG note) FUBAR: Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition FUMTU: Fucked Up More Than Usual FWIW: For What It's Worth FYI: For Your Information

G-J

GF: Gender Fluid GG: Gender Girl GIGO: Garbage In Garbage Out GL: Good Looking GM: Gender Male GMTA: Great Minds Think Alike (can be combined with YFSD) GTMI: Giving Too Much Information GQ: Gender Queer

HARD: Honour Accountability Responsibility Duty. HILT: Honesty Integrity loyalty Trust. HWP: Height-Weight Proportional

IANAL: I Am Not A Lawyer IDGAD, IDGAF: I Don't Give A Damn (Fuck) IM (IMing) - Instant Messenger. Refers to chat services like Yahoo Messenger and Skype, think of it as texting from your computer. IMHO: In My Honest Opinion IMhO: In My humble Opinion IMNSHO: In My Not So Humble Opinion IMO: In My Opinion IMPE: In My Personal Experience RL: In Real Life ISO: In Search Of (usu. refers to "personals" ad)

K-M

KMA: Kiss My Ass

LD, LDR: Long Distance Relationship LGBT: Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans (generalization encompassing all of alternate sexuality) LMAO: Laughing My Ass Off LMBO: Laughing My Butt Off LOL: Laughing Out Loud LT, LTR: Long-Term Relationship

MC: Mind Control MILF: Mother I'd Like to Fuck MFF, MFM, MMM, etc: Refers to "threesomes", F for female, M for male. MFIC: Mother Fucker In Charge MtF: Male to Female transgender MYOB, MYOFB: Mind Your Own (Fucking) Business

N-Q

NBD, NBFD: No Big (Fucking) Deal NLA: National Leather Association NSA: No Strings Attached

OL, O/L, OLR: On-line relationship OP: Original Post or Original Poster OSO: Other Significant Other OTK: Over The Knee

PE: Power Exchange PYL: Pick Your Label 

R-V

R & P: Restraint and Pleasure RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink (alternative philosophy to SSC) ROFL, ROTFL: Rolling On (The) Floor Laughing ROFLMAO: Rolling On Floor Laughing My Ass Off RL, R/L: Real Life RT, R/T: Real Time RU, RUA: Are you (a) ______?

SAM, SAS: Smart-Ass Masochist/Subbie SDS: Same Damned Spot SNAFU: Situation Normal: All Fucked Up SO: Significant Other SOSDD: Same Old Shit, Different Day SRS: Sexual Reassignment Surgery SSBBW: Super-Size Big Beautiful Woman SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual (alternative philosophy to RACK) SSDD: Same Shit, Different Day

TB: Teen Baby TBH, TBTH: To Be (Totally) Honest TFF: Too Fucking Funny TG: Trans-Gender TGFM, TG F-M, TG FtoM, etc: Trans-Gender Female-to-Male TGMF, TG M-F, TG MtoF, etc: Trans-Gender Male-to-Female TIA: Thanks In Advance TIH: Taken In Hand TLDR: Too Long, Didn't Read TMI: Too Much Information TPE: Total Power Exchange TTFN: Ta Ta For Now TTYL: Talk To You Later TTYS: Talk To You Soon TV: Transvestite TY: Thank You TYVM: Thank You Very Much TY,TYVM 

UDM: Ultimate Decision Maker

W-Z

WEG: Wicked Evil Grin WIITWD: What It Is That We Do WTF: What the Fuck WTMI: Way Too Much Information

YFSD: Yet Fools Seldom Differ (can be combined with GMTA) YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink YKNMKBTOK: Your Kink's Not My Kink But That's OK YKINMKBYKIOK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK YKINNMK: Your Kink Is Not Necessarily My Kink YKINOK: Your Kink Is Not OK YKIOK, IJNMK: Your Kink Is OK, It's Just Not My Kink YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary YMW: You're Most Welcome YQW, YRQW: You're (Really) Quite Welcome YW: You're Welcome

Special thanks to BDSM Glossary for compiling the initial list.

Anything else I should add to this list? Suggest them in the comments!