This written contract is an excerpt from Darling Discovered:A True Story of Submission. This is my recounting of the year my husband and I began exploring Power Exchange both inside and outside of the bedroom. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship. I also provide our Master/slave contract and our most recent contract to help see how one dynamic has evolved over time.
24/7 Dominant/submissive Contract
I, Chloe Donnovan, with a free mind and open heart request of Leo Donnovan that he accept the submission of my will unto him. I ask that as my Dominant, Leo Donnovan takes me into his care and guidance and encourages growth together in love, trust, and mutual respect. It is my desire as a submissive to satisfy his needs and desires whenever possible, in hopes that I will be found pleasing to him. In order to do so, I offer him the use of my body, abilities, and purpose.
Further, I ask that as my Dominant, he will accept the responsibility of using my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of both of our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. In order to achieve this, he has unrestricted use of my body any time, any place, and in front of anyone as he determines appropriate.
As a Dominant, Mr. Donnovan may bestow upon me any symbol of ownership, including a collar, as well as any other future marks or tokens he may wish to bestow upon me. Symbols of ownership are to be a visible reminder of status and will be worn with pride.
Section One: Code of Conduct
Duties of Servitude
- Above all, the primary duty of this submissive is to please.
- Personal Duties: Attend to the physical and emotional needs of Mr. Leo Donnovan, behave as his sexual plaything, offer physical comfort, act in obedience, remain honest and loyal, wait on the Dominant as desired.
- Household Duties: Cleaning and maintaining the home, laundry, shopping, cooking and baking, running all errands as needed. Any task assigned should be considered permanent until further notice. Tasks may be added at any time.
- Attitude: As a submissive, I will show an attitude of respect at all times. Disrespect is a serious offense and will be punished.
- Respect includes: manner of speech, promptness, kneeling to serve (when able), proper answers, obedience, and wholehearted honesty.
- Respect and obedience are the two most valuable aspects of attitude that I will show at all times. Failure to do so will be punished. Behavior in Private
- I shall address Mr. Donnovan as “Sir” or “Mister” at all available times. I will pay full attention to him when being spoken to.
- My Dominant is more important than any other activity I may be engaged in with the exclusion of immediate child care needs.
- I will sit, stand, walk, kneel, and lay where, when, and how he desires.
Behavior in Public
- I will address my Dominant by his given name or “Mister” at all times when there is not enough privacy to use the aforementioned “Sir.”
- I will remain within eyesight of my husband unless permission is given to do otherwise. -I will be courteous and prompt at all times.
- I will dress as Mr. Donnovan desires. I will do my best to always have a put together appearance in any social setting where I represent my husband.
- I will not argue or complain in public.
Training activities will include: domestic skills training, offering of self every evening on bended knee, proper answers, orgasm control, anal training to increase my ability to offer every hole as he wishes, learning to present myself as a submissive full of poise, grace, and beauty in public and private, learning protocols and rituals throughout this contract on an as-needed basis; any other training activities as Leo Donnovan deems fit.
- I am to achieve orgasm only by express permission of Mr. Leo Donnovan.
- I understand that a submissive’s orgasms are controlled for proper training and reminding me that it is with my Dominant’s good grace that sexual pleasure is brought, providing motivation, physical and sexual energy. Mr. Donnovan will allow me this reward when he desires.
Punishment will be given for the following offenses:
- Incorrectly addressing Mr. Donnovan
- Failing to properly serve
- Achieving orgasm without consent
- Any other punishable offense as dictated
Forms of Punishment
Punishments can include: spanking, nipple pinching, cropping, hair pulling, withholding of orgasm, caning, any other punishment as he sees fit.
Punishments are intended as full and complete penance for offenses. Punishments should always fit the crime, and would be executed with full understanding that once over, the issue is over.
Section Two: Limits of D/s Contract
Limits of submissive
Hard: Bestiality, pedo play, branding, cutting, injections, scarification, permanent markings (excepting mutually agreed upon tattooing), any toilet play, animal play, catheter use, diaper use, gun play, permanently giving away to another Dominant, infantilism, prostitution, illegal activities.
Soft: Humiliation, fisting, electricity, temporarily giving away to another Dominant, spitting, slapping.
Safe words for the duration of the contract will be the same in public and private settings. “Red” will indicate an immediate stop to all activities. “Yellow” will indicate an approach to the limits of play.
Section Three: Submissive’s pledge
I will do my best to serve my Mister. I will work hard to correct any insecurities or inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve you. I will grow as a person. I will maintain honest and open communication. I will reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without fear of judgment or embarrassment. I will bring you any wants and perceived needs of mine. I will be the very best mother and homemaker possible. I will work to repair our marriage. I will not hold past mistakes against you. I will do what I can to try and trust again.
My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person and in no way diminish my own responsibilities towards making the utmost use of my potential. In recognition of my family obligations, I know nothing will be required of me that will in any way damage or harm my child or interfere with the performance of my duties as a mother and as a wife.
This I, Chloe Donnovan, do entreat with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem, devotion and the love in which it is given.
Should either of us find that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either Mr. or Mrs. Donnovan may do so by verbal notification to the other in keeping with the consensual nature of this contract. We both understand that cancellation means a cessation to the power exchange dynamic indicated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of the relationship as friends, lovers, and spouses.
Upon cancellation, each of us agrees to offer the other his or her reasons and to assess the new needs and situation openly. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both lives.
Section Four: Signatures
This contract is valid from this day of signing until this date ________________, and at that, it may be renewed or renegotiated if the Dominant and/or submissive is of that interest.
I offer my consent of submission to __________________ under the terms stated above on this, the ______ day of ___________ in the year . x___________ (Signature of submissive)
I offer My acceptance of submission by _________________ under the terms stated above on this, the _____ day of __________ in the year . x___________ (Signature of Dominant)