A couple years ago, the MR and I decided to renew our wedding vows. We had been through a rocky start to our marriage and had transformed since originally marrying from a vanilla, egalitarian relationship to a kinky, Dominant and submissive one, and finally we had arrived at Master and slave. We felt at home in M/s. We wanted to say new vows that applied to the "new us" and wanted to exchange a blood bond as Master and slave as a symbol of our eternal commitment.
I know there are a lot of people curious about collaring ceremonies and the such, and since we had a pretty open Ceremony of Roses (hosted at a local party and we invited anybody in the community to attend and pay witness), I have decided to share the ceremony itself.
I think the Ceremony of Roses is a romantic exchange and it was a very meaningful event for us. More so than even our wedding. It was beautiful and is a time I re-live as often as I need to in order to reaffirm my life as an owned slave.
Enjoy, and feel free to incorporate any of our words or symbols into your life.
The Recommitment/Ceremony of Roses of MR and Mrs.
The Facilitator- M.A.
1st Witnesses –R and G
2nd Witnesses – A and B
M.A. rings a bell to signal the beginning.
(MR and gentlemen stand to the side of M.A.)
“Welcome all. We gather in this place at this moment to observe and celebrate two journeys met, one of time and the other of distance. Two souls, two bodies, two hearts and two destinies will be bonded before us.
Tonight they celebrate their recommitment as both Husband and wife, as well as Master and slave. The power they will exchange binds them together as surely as any rope or chain could ever. It is a locking of hearts, minds, spirits, and souls. It strengthens them and makes them one.”
M.A. rings the bell to bring in Mrs. and ladies.
2. Renew Wedding Vows
“Love is friendship caught on fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through the good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.
If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.
It is because of that love for each other that you have decided to congregate today and publically declare your vows that you have written for each other.
Speak those loving words to each other now.”
(Wedding vows exchanged- MR and Mrs.)
“MR and Mrs., remove each other’s wedding band from the hand that wears it.”
(Mrs. hands her rose to G to hold. Both remove wedding bands)
“MR, sweep Mrs. ring through the fire. Allow the flames to kiss the metal, to burn away any impurities that live there, to remove any mistakes of the past made while wearing it. Mrs. is renewed as your wife today. Do you commit, again, to have her be your wife until your last breath on earth?”
MR: I do. (Place ring on finger.)
“Mrs., bring MR's band through the fire. Cleanse the metal of the mistakes of his past, and prepare to offer it to him anew. MR is renewed as your husband today. Do you commit, again, to have him be your husband until you take the last breath of your life?”
I do. (Place ring on finger.)
“Ladies and gentlemen, may I introduce to you as Husband and wife continued, MR and Mrs.
MR, you may kiss your wife.”
3. Ceremony of Roses
rings the bell to signal beginning of the rose ceremony.
“MR, you come here today to not only recommit as Husband and wife, but also to make a public declaration of your life as Master and slave. Please prepare your slave.”
(Dress is removed, Mrs. kneels, collar is removed and handed to R, MR and Mrs. pick up roses)
“The coming together as Husband and wife is an important commitment, certainly, but that is a representation of what you are to each other in relation to the outside world. Husband and wife is what you are. Master and slave is who you are. Today you will bind yourselves as such permanently.
Slave, you carry a white rose to your Master as a gift. The white rose is a symbol of your submission to him. It symbolizes your purity of heart and intention, that your desire to serve him is selfless. The white rose is not yet in full bloom, and neither are you. The call to submission is ever blooming, constantly growing, and you are to remember this bud as a reminder to always remember that you can open up a little more for your Master.
MR, you carry a red rose in full bloom, showing your maturity of self and your readiness to accept the responsibility of owning your slave. The red symbolizes your passion for her, your desire to posses this woman in this intense way, and your commitment to protect her at all costs, even if it requires you to spill your blood to do so.
May your witnesses bind you in chain.”
(A picks up the chain, runs it over the fire, and he and B will together drape it over MR and Mrs. shoulders.)
( M.A. continues speaking while happening.)
“The links of this chain represents your life together. Each link of the chain holds an event, a memory of your lives thus far and a moment that has yet to come. Passing it through the flames signifies the purification of all of the events, and all of the bad memories will be burned into insignificance and only the good shall remain. This chain holds your bodies, and souls, together as you make this bond.
MR, take your red rose, your symbol of ownership, and draw blood from your slave.”
(MR pricks Mrs. finger with the red rose)
“Slave, mark your blood upon the white rose you carry, showing your commitment to your Master that can never be undone.”
(Mrs. marks white rose with blood)
“MR, take the white rose that symbolizes this slave’s commitment and draw your own blood, and place two drops on the petal: one drop alone, symbolizing your lone walk as the leader of this relationship, and one drop covering her mark, showing your union.”
(MR pricks his finger and marks the white rose with blood)
“Bring your fingers together now, combining the very blood that flows through your bodies. Today you are bound together for eternity, as closely as your own family blood-lines. The two of you can never be undone; there is no separation that can be permanent and complete.”
(A and B remove the chain and wrap in fabric)
“MR, place the roses in the vase and take them with you this evening as you continue on to join your bodies together. Let these two roses watch over as you consummate this bond further.
In the morning, together, the two of you are to pull the petals off, and combine them in a jar that you shall keep forever. The combining of the petals will serve as a visual reminder of the mixing and blending of your two lives. Upon death, a portion of those petals are placed with the body to show your bond will extend beyond the grave.
Legends have been told of roses that have sprung up on the graves of couples who have loved so strongly during their physical lifetime that even in death they sent back evidence of their everlasting love in the form of roses that bloom again on the graves.
May we all be so lucky to find a love so great.”
“MR, take your slaves collar and purify it in the fire, and as you place it upon her neck that has worn it for the past year, knowing that she will wear it for many, many years to come, repeat after me:”
“I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity. (Wait for MR to repeat each line)
I am a dominant man.
I am just that.
I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part.
Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.
I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.
I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.
Yet to you, I am Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust.
I embrace your submissiveness.
I have looked into your heart and mind,
and clearly see your desires and passions.
You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions.
You tell me of the needs of your heart and body.
You have given me total access to your soul,
and I accept that responsibility and honor.
Your belief in me gives me courage and direction.
Your strength disperses my doubt.
Your needs and desires encourage
and give purpose to my efforts.
We are not equal.
We are halves of a whole.
We complement each other and make each other complete.
I dominate you only because you have allowed me to,
and when I see your body kneel before me
in my mind and heart,
you are raised above all other women
and all the treasures of the earth.
Within the bounds of our relationship
it is my duty to protect you,
and that you will know, that under my care;
no harm will come to you
as a result of actions taken by Me
This is my responsibility.
“Slave, who did you enter into this room as?”
: “i came here as xxxxx”
“Slave, who are you now?”
“I am only a slave.”
“MR, how will you have your slave be known?”
“M.A. she shall be known only as Mrs. Darling. My darling.”
“Everyone, I present to you, MR and his owned slave, Mrs. Darling.”
(MR helps Mrs. stand)
“MR and Mrs., now you have publicly declared your commitment to a lifetime of living as Master and slave. As you both know so well, this is not role play. This is not a game. This is not a phase. This is not play time. This is your real lives.
May you continue living it in the way that makes each of you feel happy, and fulfilled, from this day until your last. To all those who have enhanced this gathering with your presence, let me take this moment on behalf of MR and Mrs. to sincerely thank you for celebrating this event with them, and invite you to gather after for the celebration to come.”
(MR and Mrs. exit, followed by their witnesses and facilitator.)
Thank you for reading our combination vow renewal, Ceremony of Roses, and re-collaring. I hope it provides some good information for those also interested in this ceremony.