The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable. Dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle–from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.
Review
You have figured out by now if you read my personal blog or the Weekend Reflections here that KnyghtMare and I have recently begun the process of opening our relationship to include froggy. KnyghtMare and froggy are now Dominant and submissive and are taking it on my lead as to sexual contact. It’s not easy for me to release that possessiveness I feel but I know it will happen.
When I was trying to decide on a book to review for Submissive Guide I thought it would be an opportune moment for me to read the most recognized book about open relationships and poly living, The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. This book is a practical humorous look at all types of open relationships from to authors who admit to trying all sorts of relationship styles and regaling us with stories from their lives.
If you are looking into open relationship styles or like me, opening your existing relationship then this book could be a stepping stone into understanding everything that goes on in your head, the feelings and how to deal with multiple people in your life. I know I picked up a tip or two about jealousy and communicating my fears. This 2nd edition of the book is very easy to follow, has sections on the history of sexual stereotypes, opening up your social understanding, how to become an open relationship practitioner, dealing with challenges and making connections.
It was quite an eye opener for me and my monogamous thinking. I’m more accepting of my responses to relationships and can see the value of every relationship I see. It has been a positive book for me.
I did have a constant hang up over the overuse of the terminology of slut and sluthood throughout the book. It gave the gravity of the life choice a looser feel and one less serious than what the co-authors would want you to believe. While I happily proclaim I am KnyghtMare’s slut I just couldn’t get behind using a “free-love” sort of term as a slut for identifying as someone open to polyamory lifestyles.
The book gets a lot of good reviews on Amazon.com and I’m definitely in the ranks of finding this a valuable resource. What do you think? Have you read this book? Tell me in the comments how it rates for you!