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Absolutely—yes. And honestly, most people are. It’s easy to think we have to choose just one kind of submissive to be: service sub, brat, pet, slave, babygirl, rope bunny. The list of labels goes on, and while those identities can help us understand ourselves and communicate with partners, they’re not...

Question: I am just starting out on my sub journey. I know very little. That being said, I have learnt loads in the last few weeks. I have met a Dom, and we’ve been chatting, etc., and he’s been amazing answering all my questions. He is a sadist.  We’ve just...

Question: Can you please do a post naming the different types of Dominants? There are so many different types, so there’s a great deal of curiosity. Answer: It is important to break this down into each side of the slash, so here are the general descriptions for some of the...

Yes—absolutely, 100%, without a doubt—you need boundaries. With your Dominant. With your friends. With everyone you have a relationship with. A common misconception in BDSM is that safewords replace the need for boundaries. But the truth is, boundaries and safewords serve very different purposes, and both are necessary. Boundaries are...

The “princess submissive” is a unique archetype in the D/s world—graceful, playful, and full of charm. She (or they) brings a sense of elegance and fantasy into submission, blending soft vulnerability with a desire for attention, care, and adoration. A princess submissive isn’t just about being spoiled. It’s about being...

I think it is important to break this down into each side of the slash, so here are the general descriptions for some of the more common s-types. (Disclaimer: there is no one right answer/definition, this is based on generalized experience; labels should always be the START of a discussion,...

We know submission can be powerful, affirming, and deeply validating—but when you’re carrying the weight of depression or low self-worth, that same vulnerability can feel overwhelming. You’re not alone in this. If you’re not seeing a professional to help improve your mental health, you can find a list of kink-aware...

Question: I want to do more for my Dom in terms of serving without him asking me. Do you have any ideas? Answer: That’s a wonderful instinct, and it speaks volumes about your desire to deepen your submission and connection. Serving without being asked is often called anticipatory service—and it’s...

Question: Last week, in the introductory phase, I had a Domme ask me what humiliates me.  I hesitated to tell her because it also embarrassed me.  Hope that makes sense.   I ended up telling her, but it was very uncomfortable.    What are your thoughts on this question, and am...

With so many great BDSM-related podcasts out there, it’s easier than ever to learn, grow, and feel connected to the community. Whether you’re looking for educational deep dives, personal stories, or just good conversations about kink, there’s something for everyone. Here are a few of the podcasts I’m currently listening...