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How to Ask for What You Need as a Submissive

There’s a really bad idea out there that Dominants decide everything and submissives simply accept it. Once you enter into your relationship, after initial negotiations, you’re expected to submit, serve, and wait for whatever your Dominant decides to do to you or for you. You do what you’re told and keep your mouth shut. Wrong! New (or […]

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How to Ask for Play and Why It’s So Hard For Submissives To Do

One of the hardest things we do as submissives is asking for play. For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn’t in our character. But I’m here to tell you that it isn’t.