When a Dominant needs time alone to decompress, an anxious submissive may feel hurt or rejected. This article explores how to respect a Dominant’s need for space while managing anxiety, improving communication, and strengthening the relationship through understanding, patience, and care.
Question: Why is it called serving a Dominant? I don’t like that kind of phrasing and insinuation that I am somehow below the Dominant. Answer: It’s completely understandable that the word “serve” can rub you the wrong way. In everyday life, “service” often gets tangled up with ideas of being lesser, having lower status, or
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Question: I want to do more for my Dom in terms of serving without him asking me. Do you have any ideas? Answer: That’s a wonderful instinct, and it speaks volumes about your desire to deepen your submission and connection. Serving without being asked is often called anticipatory service—and it’s all about tuning into your
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?
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This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a such thing as
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This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read Part I: Boundaries. Over the past few weeks, the matter of service has come
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I never used to enjoy domestic duties. In fact there are a number of days where I stare at my cleaning list as if doing that would make it disappear. However, I have slowly seen how having a clean house really makes it a home. Two years ago I stopped working outside the home and
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To complete the series on types of service, today I’m going to cover devotional service. If you’d like a refresher on the other types of service please see the other posts: Devotional service in D/s relationships involves the submissive partner expressing their devotion, reverence, and commitment to the dominant partner through service, worship, or adoration.
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