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How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

This entry is part 12 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, a protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your

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Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

This entry is part 16 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked, “if you are not expected to do

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What Should You Do When Your Wants or Needs Aren’t Met?

This entry is part 6 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

To conclude this series on wants and needs I’d like to talk about what to do when you needs and wants are not being met.  We’ve already discussed how important the fulfillment of needs are to your relationship and also what your desires are. You can also review how to express your wants and needs to your partner so

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Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

This entry is part 1 of 11 in the series The Submissive Resume

A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout the course

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An Exercise to Help You Distinguish Between Wants and Needs

This entry is part 4 of 10 in the series Submissive Wants and Needs

Continuing the Wants and Needs Series, this essay is about knowing the difference between wants and needs. If you would like to read the previous essay, please read “ Know What You Want, Learn What You Need.” The difference between wants and needs can be answered in one basic question. Is this something you can live

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