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Submissive Advent – Day 12: Proud Mary

This entry is part 13 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 12 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. I am often asked if being submissive means you have to be humble, meek and reserved. It always puzzles me to think […]

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Submissive Advent – Day 11: Pancake Identity

This entry is part 12 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 11 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. In the book club event we did this fall we read “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. She has some very wonderful stories and words if

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Submissive Advent – Day 10: Spreading Good Cheer

This entry is part 11 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 10 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. Lines are longer, there are more drivers on the road, the snow is falling and kids are a bit more excited than

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Submissive Advent – Day 9: Joy in Accomplishment

This entry is part 10 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 9 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. “True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupery I’ve asked in

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Submissive Advent – Day 8: It’s Time to Receive

This entry is part 9 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 8 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. I know that one of the hardest things for me to do is to accept a compliment. I am not the only

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Submissive Advent – Day 7: Random Acts of Kindness

This entry is part 8 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 7 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. As submissives, we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit. One of the most frequent suggestions I hear

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Submissive Advent – Day 6: Awareness

This entry is part 7 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 6 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. This is a simple moment for you today. Consider the following question. When are you most aware of being owned/submissive? Once you

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Submissive Advent – Day 5: The Music Will Set You Free

This entry is part 6 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 5 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. Whenever I’m writing I have to have music going. It’s like food for my thoughts I think. It has to be a

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Submissive Advent – Day 4: Rewards for Service

This entry is part 5 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 4 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. Being rewarded for our submission often feeds our pleasure center once in a while but it’s not required. We all know this

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Submissive Advent – Day 3: The Wise Words

This entry is part 4 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 3 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can  go back to that now, or  rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also  read the introduction post. No matter where we are in our submissive journey, whether that be mere days into the discovery or years of experience we

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Submissive Advent – Day 2: Create a Submissive Token

This entry is part 3 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Today is day 2 of the Submissive Advent Calendar. If you missed yesterday’s post you can go back to that now, or rewind all the way to the beginning. You can also read the introduction post. There are moments in our life where we can lose sight of why we are submitting, or we can’t grasp that warm

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Submissive Advent – Day 1: In Wait

This entry is part 2 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

Welcome to the first day of Submissive Advent. Every day we’ll learn more about ourselves, our relationship or perspective relationships and our submission. Shakespeare has a couple of sonnets that are often used as poems of submission and service. Today, I’d like to share Sonnet 57: Being your slave what should I do but tend

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Submissive Advent Calendar

This entry is part 1 of 25 in the series Submissive Advent Calendar

The Advent is the time in anticipation for Christmas and is celebrated in some religious circles, but also carries a secular following. Advent translated means “the coming.” I’m sure everyone has seen the cardboard calendars with little doors and chocolate inside; to be opened one a day until Christmas Day. Well, I’ve had this idea of

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The Secret to Better Submission Every Day

This entry is part 27 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Want to know a secret? Submission gets better every day. What makes it so good? I’m not going to tell you any revelations that you probably don’t already know. But here goes. Your personal investment in your future is what makes it better every day. The fact that you follow Submissive Guide to learn and

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What is Submission to You?

This entry is part 28 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide, try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of people who don’t connect with anything

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The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to

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Submission is Not All Sunshine and Puppies: The Realities of Submission

This entry is part 20 of 30 in the series Novice Submissives Start Here

I’ve been writing about submission here for a long time. I do my best to give a positive image to submission for those who are new and learning about BDSM and possibly wanting to explore it with their current of future partners. There’s nothing wrong with the way I write and have been prompted on

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Know Thyself, Don’t Rush Into a Relationship Until You Know These Six Things

The excitement of a new D/s relationship is often the first thing that a novice submissive seeks. How else are they going to learn about play, and submission than in a relationship, they might reason. There is a better, more prepared way than jumping into a relationship with someone before you are ready. Taking the

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How Making a Cup of Coffee Centers Me

This entry is part 8 of 35 in the series Rituals, Rules and Protocol

I’ve been struggling with my submission recently. It’s been a difficult and painful experience for both KnyghtMare and myself. I’ve been resisting my natural desires to serve and obey and become questioning and testy. As I try to say as much as possible, I’m not a perfect submissive and I have issues like many of

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