I know how you feel right now. You’ve discovered this thing called BDSM in some fashion or another and it pulls you in to get it a try. But as you search through countless websites, Amazon BDSM book lists and the sheer number of opinions on BDSM you realize this barrage of information is going […]
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One of the main ways I’ve used my personal blog for years is as a brain dump. A brain dump is a method of releasing all the clutter that’s in your head at the time. Whether that be a rant or a moment of stress or a way to sort out intense emotions. Submissive Journaling
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When you don’t know what you want to write about in your submissive journal but have an obligation to write something, one of the best tool is journaling prompts. Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have curated a long, long list of introspective questions, thoughts, and quotes to help you develop as a person
In the first few posts about submissive journals you’ve read about the kind of tool a journal is in a relationship, whether that be a new one or a long-standing one, as well as how Dominants use your journal as a tool for communication and relationship building but what about when you are single, or
When you are trying to understand something related to submission, BDSM or your relationship, a submissive journal is a great place to get it all sorted out. While it may not actually solve your problem or answer your question, the simple use of the journal is one of the best tools in your submissive arsenal.
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A friend of mine called me up the other day to talk. She wanted to know how to talk to her partner about some new kink desires that she had. See she’s what I have always considered kink-lite compared to the way KnyghtMare and I live so while she’s easy to get along with we
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This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Good – better – best – favorable – bountiful – fertile – handsome – attractive – suitable – fit – profitable – advantageous – pleasant – agreeable – salutary – wholesome – amusing
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When you first learned about submission or BDSM you may have felt a sense of coming home, of finally understanding what wasn’t sitting right for you. But along with that relief come questions. You thought you knew who you were, and now you’ve been thrown into a new world and you don’t know who you
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Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives, we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and how scary some of the things
Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It Read More »
Feeling uncertain about what’s expected of you as a submissive? You’re not alone. This beginner-friendly guide unpacks the realities of D/s dynamics, clears up common myths, and helps you explore your own needs and boundaries. Learn how to talk about expectations with a Dominant, spot red flags, and build a relationship that fits you both. Whether you’ve already entered a D/s relationship or are still figuring things out, this article offers guidance, clarity, and reflection prompts to support your journey. Because submission isn’t one-size-fits-all—and you deserve to feel seen, safe, and empowered in your role.
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive Read More »
Being submissive doesn’t mean giving up your needs. This article explores how to identify, communicate, and prioritize your personal needs in a D/s relationship. From emotional safety to structure and love, you’ll learn why honoring your needs is essential for thriving in submission—and why settling for less isn’t an option.
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Read the entire series – go back to the Introduction of the 30 Days of Submission! Is there anything about submission (yours or what you see in others) that you question, dislike or repels you? Was there a time you questioned or were resistant to your own submissive feelings? Wow. I spent a good long
30 Days of Submission: Day 23 – Questioning my Submission Read More »
There’s going to come to a point, I pray, that the single slave will be not so single and will be heading towards being owned. So for the last message in this series, I thought I’d talk about releasing the fear of transformation. There’s a song from the late 80’s “Don’t Make Me Over” by
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens Read More »
As I shared with you last week I am doing Nanowrimo this month so I’m focusing my writing there. While I’m away I have prepared an interesting series for Submissive Guide. This is the first of 30 days where you all get to learn a little bit (or a lot) about me. I’m going to
30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission Read More »
I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals
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This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a such thing as
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume Read More »
This is a guest post by Shahjahani. She is a personal friend of mine and a fantastic educator. I originally heard of these precepts when speaking of death and dying. I elaborated on them then to help myself understand my place in the death and dying process. I shared my thoughts back then with those that
BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service Read More »
Asking for release from a relationship is never an easy thing to do regardless of the reasons and how it is done. It is not something one does lightly and shouldn’t be something someone does without thought and consideration to all the factors involved. It is something that I have recently had to do –
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As always the views in this article are mine and mine alone unless otherwise stated. I write about what I know and what I know is me and my journey. As the old saying goes it’s not over until the fat lady sings. In this instance the fat lady would be me, a few
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I thought I would come up with some snazzy title, or something with more zing than ‘Faith’, but life has moved me to the point where I desire to keep it simple and to the point, with a splash of creative Blyssism. For just over a year now, life has had me in a gauntlet with
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